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For my sis: What happens to a relationship once you meet his kids?
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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 474985" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>husband had been divorced (not his choice) for eight years and I had been single again for six years. My kids had only met one man in that time and he was not a love interest for me. My girls were ok with husband. My easy child son was not a happy camper and, in fact, insisted on calling husband "Mr. xxxx" for two years after we ended up married. husband's twins took to me right away. His oldest daughter still hasn't taken to me. LOL!</p><p></p><p>Tell you the truth I was shocked how difficult it was. Without exception to this day I always faded into the background when one of husband's or all of them wanted their Dad to themselves. The four of them had a pattern of playing tennis, going to State parks etc. that was "their thing" and my kids and I let them continue their bond...and the four of us did our thing with-o interference either.</p><p></p><p>Discipline, by the way, was always handled by the birth parent because I had seen too many kids inherit a "new Daddy" who became the boss. Not at my house. Over the years the bond has grown. I had visions of The Brady Bunch. The kids from both sides like each other but they don't love each other like they do their birth siblings. </p><p></p><p>I wish your Sis well but hope she is prepared for a challenge. After years of having undivided attention by a single parent it is not an easy transition. Suggest that she go very slowly and not expect to be genuinely accepted for a long time. The reverse is likely to be true with her kids reluctance. Plus be prepared for the kids not to like each other either. Hard. That's what it is, lol. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 474985, member: 35"] husband had been divorced (not his choice) for eight years and I had been single again for six years. My kids had only met one man in that time and he was not a love interest for me. My girls were ok with husband. My easy child son was not a happy camper and, in fact, insisted on calling husband "Mr. xxxx" for two years after we ended up married. husband's twins took to me right away. His oldest daughter still hasn't taken to me. LOL! Tell you the truth I was shocked how difficult it was. Without exception to this day I always faded into the background when one of husband's or all of them wanted their Dad to themselves. The four of them had a pattern of playing tennis, going to State parks etc. that was "their thing" and my kids and I let them continue their bond...and the four of us did our thing with-o interference either. Discipline, by the way, was always handled by the birth parent because I had seen too many kids inherit a "new Daddy" who became the boss. Not at my house. Over the years the bond has grown. I had visions of The Brady Bunch. The kids from both sides like each other but they don't love each other like they do their birth siblings. I wish your Sis well but hope she is prepared for a challenge. After years of having undivided attention by a single parent it is not an easy transition. Suggest that she go very slowly and not expect to be genuinely accepted for a long time. The reverse is likely to be true with her kids reluctance. Plus be prepared for the kids not to like each other either. Hard. That's what it is, lol. DDD [/QUOTE]
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