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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 191733" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>OKG, BBK! Please take it v-e-r-y slow and be very, very careful! I would hate to see you (and Tink!) get hurt! And what did happen to his evil live-in? Inquiring minds want to know!</p><p> </p><p>It's all very understandable why you would feel this way. But sometimes when you're out of a situation for a while, you tend to only remember the good things about it and gloss over the bad. It's only human nature. I have not one but TWO ex's, and I'm a very firm believer that someone's past behavior is the very best predictor of what their future behavior will be. People just don't change that much ... not deep down inside they don't. Before it gets out of hand, ask yourself ... would you be happy if you did get back together with him and everything ends up being <u>exactly</u> like it was before, when you were still married to him? Because that's probably what will happen! </p><p> </p><p>Years ago I had a very wise older friend who really did make a "list" like the others were talking about! She was married to this man for only a few years ... he was horrible, awful, abusive, and more than a little looney! They had been divorced for years but every once in a while he'd look her up and lay on the sweet talk. She made a list of every single dirty rotten thing he had ever done to her - it was a very long list! Then she gave it to her attorney to keep. She told the attorney that if she was ever even tempted to have anything to do with her ex again, he should whip out that list and force her to read it! So, for her, the "list" worked!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 191733, member: 1883"] OKG, BBK! Please take it v-e-r-y slow and be very, very careful! I would hate to see you (and Tink!) get hurt! And what did happen to his evil live-in? Inquiring minds want to know! It's all very understandable why you would feel this way. But sometimes when you're out of a situation for a while, you tend to only remember the good things about it and gloss over the bad. It's only human nature. I have not one but TWO ex's, and I'm a very firm believer that someone's past behavior is the very best predictor of what their future behavior will be. People just don't change that much ... not deep down inside they don't. Before it gets out of hand, ask yourself ... would you be happy if you did get back together with him and everything ends up being [U]exactly[/U] like it was before, when you were still married to him? Because that's probably what will happen! Years ago I had a very wise older friend who really did make a "list" like the others were talking about! She was married to this man for only a few years ... he was horrible, awful, abusive, and more than a little looney! They had been divorced for years but every once in a while he'd look her up and lay on the sweet talk. She made a list of every single dirty rotten thing he had ever done to her - it was a very long list! Then she gave it to her attorney to keep. She told the attorney that if she was ever even tempted to have anything to do with her ex again, he should whip out that list and force her to read it! So, for her, the "list" worked! [/QUOTE]
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