Apparently, up here in new england, there is such a thing as a Jack & Jill party. difficult child's DF's mother offered to have one. The thing is that easy child and her cousin were planning a bridal shower for difficult child...and everything I've read says you shouldn't do both a jack and Jill and a shower because it appears greedy. For the jack and Jill party, usually everyone pays about $20/person and there is food, booze and games, entertainment, etc. The money collected goes to the couple to either use for the wedding or their honeymoon, whatever they want. Obviously, most of you know what the bridal shower is for. DF's mother has been a bit of a pita and makes comments that we should just have had a hoedown in her backyard, whatever. I'm quite annoyed with her for some other things she says. She isn't overt about it, she's passive aggressive and that just bugs the poop out of me. She's controlling and manipulative with all her adult kids and it's always all about her. So, can someone please tell me if it would be in poor taste for easy child to host a shower for difficult child as well as for future mother in law from hell to host a jack and Jill? Thanks!