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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 428549" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>Like PJ said, LEE is KEY </p><p></p><p>LEE = low expressed emotion</p><p></p><p>Ignore the langauage and just 'be the wall'. He can't argue if you won't engage. The hard part of this is that it takes an immense amount of time at the beginning. Tigger's record is over 9 hours of refusing to take his medications. I just refused to engage him or turn on the tv or even feed him until he got took his medications . Once he took his medications, I put food on the table quickly cause I knew he had to be starving and then he got to play and watch tv cause there is not punishment for just refusal to comply other than the 'stop the world' of doing nothing until he complies. A bad time now is about 20 minutes but compliance is usually good. </p><p></p><p>It is 100% worth putting the time and energy into it when he is 8, because the sooner you get him to start complying, the better for all of you.</p><p></p><p>WRT to Basket B, if he is still arguing after an agreement, then the agreement is flawed. Start with small things and go from there. A therapist trained in CPS can be a huge help.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 428549, member: 1169"] Like PJ said, LEE is KEY LEE = low expressed emotion Ignore the langauage and just 'be the wall'. He can't argue if you won't engage. The hard part of this is that it takes an immense amount of time at the beginning. Tigger's record is over 9 hours of refusing to take his medications. I just refused to engage him or turn on the tv or even feed him until he got took his medications . Once he took his medications, I put food on the table quickly cause I knew he had to be starving and then he got to play and watch tv cause there is not punishment for just refusal to comply other than the 'stop the world' of doing nothing until he complies. A bad time now is about 20 minutes but compliance is usually good. It is 100% worth putting the time and energy into it when he is 8, because the sooner you get him to start complying, the better for all of you. WRT to Basket B, if he is still arguing after an agreement, then the agreement is flawed. Start with small things and go from there. A therapist trained in CPS can be a huge help. [/QUOTE]
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