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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 422751" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I aam so sorry that you are goin g through all of this. I went through it for a very long time also. As soon as my daughter became able to move around on her own (rolling over and over, not even crawling yet) my son decided she was "evil" and all women were "evil" and "demons". This lasted for years and years. By the time Jess was walking (1 yr old) we had learned that the two of them could not be alone in a room together or else she would be bruised and/or bleeding. This was NOT due to being clumsy - she was the most athleticly inclined graceful child I have ever seen. </p><p> </p><p>When he was 12 we learned that he would sneak into her room at night and try to strangle her - learned because the CAT insisted I follow her into Jessie's room one night and I found Wiz in the act. It had been going on for quite some time - Jess just hid it because Wiz told her he would kill thank you if she told. </p><p> </p><p>We then put him in a psychiatric hospital for 4 months. It helped a lot, for a while. Then he started hurting me and I had to insist he leave our home - mostly because he was hurting me to get through me to Jess and because I refuse to be anyone's battered woman. Not even my son's. Now, 5 yrs later we have a pretty good relationship though not terribly close - he still is living with my parents, where he went when hecouldn't live here and couldn't follow the directions at the youth shelter.</p><p> </p><p>So how did I move past the anger and other not fun feelings and start to trust Wiz? I went to the local DV center and got help. Domestic violence includes sibling abuse and parent abuse, not just spousal and child abuse. The DV center had not treated any other parents for this at that time. They admitted this and said that we would work through the problems together - and they were amazing. The therapist was one of the best I have known in spite of only having a few years of working as a therapist under her belt. The therapy was also FREE - as much as I needed, as long as it took. </p><p> </p><p>You NEED help with this. I also took medications to help - prozac and xanax. They were an important piece of the puzzle of my healing. </p><p> </p><p>PLEASE go to the DV center or call to make an intake appointment. If you just stop in you likely will have to make an appointment for intake. I waited until the intake meeting to tell them what I needed help with.</p><p> </p><p>It won't pass with-o a lot of help, but this is totally normal, in my opinion. </p><p> </p><p>((((((((((hugs))))))))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 422751, member: 1233"] I aam so sorry that you are goin g through all of this. I went through it for a very long time also. As soon as my daughter became able to move around on her own (rolling over and over, not even crawling yet) my son decided she was "evil" and all women were "evil" and "demons". This lasted for years and years. By the time Jess was walking (1 yr old) we had learned that the two of them could not be alone in a room together or else she would be bruised and/or bleeding. This was NOT due to being clumsy - she was the most athleticly inclined graceful child I have ever seen. When he was 12 we learned that he would sneak into her room at night and try to strangle her - learned because the CAT insisted I follow her into Jessie's room one night and I found Wiz in the act. It had been going on for quite some time - Jess just hid it because Wiz told her he would kill thank you if she told. We then put him in a psychiatric hospital for 4 months. It helped a lot, for a while. Then he started hurting me and I had to insist he leave our home - mostly because he was hurting me to get through me to Jess and because I refuse to be anyone's battered woman. Not even my son's. Now, 5 yrs later we have a pretty good relationship though not terribly close - he still is living with my parents, where he went when hecouldn't live here and couldn't follow the directions at the youth shelter. So how did I move past the anger and other not fun feelings and start to trust Wiz? I went to the local DV center and got help. Domestic violence includes sibling abuse and parent abuse, not just spousal and child abuse. The DV center had not treated any other parents for this at that time. They admitted this and said that we would work through the problems together - and they were amazing. The therapist was one of the best I have known in spite of only having a few years of working as a therapist under her belt. The therapy was also FREE - as much as I needed, as long as it took. You NEED help with this. I also took medications to help - prozac and xanax. They were an important piece of the puzzle of my healing. PLEASE go to the DV center or call to make an intake appointment. If you just stop in you likely will have to make an appointment for intake. I waited until the intake meeting to tell them what I needed help with. It won't pass with-o a lot of help, but this is totally normal, in my opinion. ((((((((((hugs)))))))))) [/QUOTE]
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