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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 619905" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p><span style="font-size: 15px">Believe it or not, most of the time I'm actually okay. Most of the time I don't worry about him...well, not much...and I don't think about him and what he's doing. That's the joy of him being 4 hours away at college...I'm not <em>supposed</em> to know what he's doing! My husband wanted to close this account and make him open his own in another bank and I was dead set against it. Mostly because if he has a serious need - car breaks down or he gets sick and needs medicine or other unforseen and unavoidable things - we can easily get him what he needs this way. (Although we have told him he will give us the name of a garage, etc., and we will pay the provider of any service by credit card over the phone and not give him money.) I still think it's a good idea. But right now I wish he'd have just emptied the account all at once and told me he moved it to another bank. Then I wouldn't have to see it. </span></p><p> <span style="font-size: 15px"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 15px">But I digress. Most of the time I'm fine. I'm at work or at home and content and not even thinking about him. I tend to try to look on the bright side. It could be worse. He's not in jail - hasn't ever had that problem. To my knowlege he's not on any hard drugs. At least until the end of May he's not going to be able to say he's homeless or hungry and my conscience is clear in that respect and if he can't find a place to live...well, I offered to support him and hold on to the loan so he'd have deposits and such, but he wouldn't hear of it, so also no one's fault but his own if it happens. And I was serious, I actually am pretty sure now he actually bought the computer, which is something.</span></p><p> <span style="font-size: 15px"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 15px">At this point, it's just his refusal to use a brain cell. He doesn't want to be a responsible person. He doesn't want to get an education and if I thought he'd be happy working for minimum wage and living in a rat hole apartment, I would be okay with him not living up to his potential. But I know him. He won't be happy without a substantial income and he won't get that without an education and it will become a vicious cycle. </span></p><p> <span style="font-size: 15px"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 15px">I generally try to take an "expect the worst and then if it doesn't happen you'll be happily surprised" attitude toward things. It was just seeing that money disappear in two weeks that got to me. </span></p><p> <span style="font-size: 15px"></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 15px">So usually I'm okay. My husband and I are planning a trip and trying to enjoy our empty nest...and it's nice, really, to not have a moody teenager underfoot (or hiding in his room); there's a noticable lack of tension in our home. </span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 619905, member: 17309"] [SIZE=4]Believe it or not, most of the time I'm actually okay. Most of the time I don't worry about him...well, not much...and I don't think about him and what he's doing. That's the joy of him being 4 hours away at college...I'm not [I]supposed[/I] to know what he's doing! My husband wanted to close this account and make him open his own in another bank and I was dead set against it. Mostly because if he has a serious need - car breaks down or he gets sick and needs medicine or other unforseen and unavoidable things - we can easily get him what he needs this way. (Although we have told him he will give us the name of a garage, etc., and we will pay the provider of any service by credit card over the phone and not give him money.) I still think it's a good idea. But right now I wish he'd have just emptied the account all at once and told me he moved it to another bank. Then I wouldn't have to see it. But I digress. Most of the time I'm fine. I'm at work or at home and content and not even thinking about him. I tend to try to look on the bright side. It could be worse. He's not in jail - hasn't ever had that problem. To my knowlege he's not on any hard drugs. At least until the end of May he's not going to be able to say he's homeless or hungry and my conscience is clear in that respect and if he can't find a place to live...well, I offered to support him and hold on to the loan so he'd have deposits and such, but he wouldn't hear of it, so also no one's fault but his own if it happens. And I was serious, I actually am pretty sure now he actually bought the computer, which is something. At this point, it's just his refusal to use a brain cell. He doesn't want to be a responsible person. He doesn't want to get an education and if I thought he'd be happy working for minimum wage and living in a rat hole apartment, I would be okay with him not living up to his potential. But I know him. He won't be happy without a substantial income and he won't get that without an education and it will become a vicious cycle. I generally try to take an "expect the worst and then if it doesn't happen you'll be happily surprised" attitude toward things. It was just seeing that money disappear in two weeks that got to me. So usually I'm okay. My husband and I are planning a trip and trying to enjoy our empty nest...and it's nice, really, to not have a moody teenager underfoot (or hiding in his room); there's a noticable lack of tension in our home. [/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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