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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 497022" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi.</p><p></p><p>I think I'm the only person with experience with a sexual predator in my house, and I strongly urge you to keep her out of your house. You didn't say if you have other younger kids, but if you do I would keep him out of the house forever. Our sexual predator came to us at age 11 and left at 13. Hiding it really well (scaring the younger kids with death threats and threats to burn down our house), he abused them the entire time and they were afraid to tell us. I am very frightened to think this, but I think that he abused younger kids in the neighborhood whose parents did not even know about what he did. He gravitated toward younger and disabled kids and one child had epilepsy and he actead like he was overly concerned about him in school, but this child had cognitive delays and trouble moving and I'll just bet he molested him and he had no way to tell anybody. This child also abused animals and killed a few dogs. That's kind of how we found out he was so sick, because he acted like a normal kid to all adults, if not a charming one.</p><p></p><p>He about destroyed our family. As soon as we knew what he was doing, we called CPS to take him and he was gone. The county we lived in, without our even asking them to do it, charged him with 1st degree sexual assault of a minor (he was six years older than both of my other kids) and he was convicted and sent to a home for young sexual predators. It took a couple of months for them to press charges, but they did. From tidbits I heard, he did not do well in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC). But he was no longer a threat to anyone in the community, especially our younger kids who needed intensely therapy (as did we). The county paid for his Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and dissolved the adoption. We also figure he had a terrible life before us, but that is not the fault of my other two younger kids a nd I would not risk him in our house after we knew. Once in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) he admitted he had been sexually abusing younger child since he was five years old (and had never been caught). His caseworker said he had no remorse and didn't really seem to understand the magnitude of what he did. He did not remember being sexually abused himself, but obviously he had been. Sadly, we learned that we can not save all kids, even with all our love, which he had (until we found out). He was not attached to us and did not miss us beyond being sorry he could no longer get treats and toys from us. </p><p></p><p>This is totally your call. In our family, we drew the line at sexual abuse. It is hard to treat and there is no guarantee a child won't re-offend or keep it up as an adult. Our decision was to have a peaceful, safe home for our healing younger kids (who were also adopted...we have NOTHING against adopted kids). Keeping him at home was not an option. The two other kids were terrified of him and hated him. I could not make them live in his presence.</p><p></p><p>If she continues to offend, somebody may well press charges, including your county. She is abusing much younger kids and it is predatory if they are six years younger. The child we'd adopted has to sign as a sexual predator for the rest of his life (although we know...without explaining...that he was prosecuted once for not signing as a predator and that he still has not). He could end up in prison for a long time...this is a felony.</p><p></p><p>He is married now with two baby daughters. It makes me sick to my stomach.</p><p></p><p>At any rate, I can not sugar coat sexual predatory behavior. These kids hurt many, many kids and are not safe at home or in the neighborhood. Hopefully, she can stay out of the home for a long, long time. ((((Hugs)))) as I truly know what you are going through.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 497022, member: 1550"] Hi. I think I'm the only person with experience with a sexual predator in my house, and I strongly urge you to keep her out of your house. You didn't say if you have other younger kids, but if you do I would keep him out of the house forever. Our sexual predator came to us at age 11 and left at 13. Hiding it really well (scaring the younger kids with death threats and threats to burn down our house), he abused them the entire time and they were afraid to tell us. I am very frightened to think this, but I think that he abused younger kids in the neighborhood whose parents did not even know about what he did. He gravitated toward younger and disabled kids and one child had epilepsy and he actead like he was overly concerned about him in school, but this child had cognitive delays and trouble moving and I'll just bet he molested him and he had no way to tell anybody. This child also abused animals and killed a few dogs. That's kind of how we found out he was so sick, because he acted like a normal kid to all adults, if not a charming one. He about destroyed our family. As soon as we knew what he was doing, we called CPS to take him and he was gone. The county we lived in, without our even asking them to do it, charged him with 1st degree sexual assault of a minor (he was six years older than both of my other kids) and he was convicted and sent to a home for young sexual predators. It took a couple of months for them to press charges, but they did. From tidbits I heard, he did not do well in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC). But he was no longer a threat to anyone in the community, especially our younger kids who needed intensely therapy (as did we). The county paid for his Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and dissolved the adoption. We also figure he had a terrible life before us, but that is not the fault of my other two younger kids a nd I would not risk him in our house after we knew. Once in the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) he admitted he had been sexually abusing younger child since he was five years old (and had never been caught). His caseworker said he had no remorse and didn't really seem to understand the magnitude of what he did. He did not remember being sexually abused himself, but obviously he had been. Sadly, we learned that we can not save all kids, even with all our love, which he had (until we found out). He was not attached to us and did not miss us beyond being sorry he could no longer get treats and toys from us. This is totally your call. In our family, we drew the line at sexual abuse. It is hard to treat and there is no guarantee a child won't re-offend or keep it up as an adult. Our decision was to have a peaceful, safe home for our healing younger kids (who were also adopted...we have NOTHING against adopted kids). Keeping him at home was not an option. The two other kids were terrified of him and hated him. I could not make them live in his presence. If she continues to offend, somebody may well press charges, including your county. She is abusing much younger kids and it is predatory if they are six years younger. The child we'd adopted has to sign as a sexual predator for the rest of his life (although we know...without explaining...that he was prosecuted once for not signing as a predator and that he still has not). He could end up in prison for a long time...this is a felony. He is married now with two baby daughters. It makes me sick to my stomach. At any rate, I can not sugar coat sexual predatory behavior. These kids hurt many, many kids and are not safe at home or in the neighborhood. Hopefully, she can stay out of the home for a long, long time. ((((Hugs)))) as I truly know what you are going through. [/QUOTE]
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