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<blockquote data-quote="JJJ" data-source="post: 497063" data-attributes="member: 1169"><p>I'm so sorry. First, please understand that you did not cause this and in all likelihood, there was nothing you could have done to prevent it. My oldest foster/adopt daughter (Kanga) terrorized my younger children and most of it we didn't find out about until after she was placed out of our home. She use to whisper through the walls vents -- both to threaten them and say horrible, horrible sexual things to them. </p><p></p><p>Sadly, your daughter likely needs YEARS of Residential Treatment Center (RTC) not weeks. I suggest writing a parent report (see the link in my signature below). The parent report is a ""work in progress" and as you write it and review it things may suddenly click that you hadn't put together previously. Have your husband participate in writing/reviewing it. Often each parent will recall different events. I agree with calling CPS and stating that you feel that a family environment cannot keep others safe from her and that she needs to be in a staffed facility where she can get both intensive treatment and 24/7 eyes-on supervision. Document! Document! Document! your efforts to get her into a secure facility so that if she is forced back to your house and something goes wrong, you have some 'proof' that you did all you could to keep others safe. You may want to meet withsomeone from the DAs office as well. </p><p></p><p>It sounds like she did not attach to you. Having her placed in a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or other facility will not feel like an abandonment to her since she'd have to be attached to feel abandoned. The number one priority has to be to keep other children safe from her and a close second would be to get her intensive treatment. Please be aware that many times, children who do things like this will often make false allegations to distract from their guilt (your husband should never be alone with her). </p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. MWM already posted and there is at least one other member that had a similar situation who posts a couple times per week, I'm sure she'll add her support later this week. </p><p></p><p>(((Hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="JJJ, post: 497063, member: 1169"] I'm so sorry. First, please understand that you did not cause this and in all likelihood, there was nothing you could have done to prevent it. My oldest foster/adopt daughter (Kanga) terrorized my younger children and most of it we didn't find out about until after she was placed out of our home. She use to whisper through the walls vents -- both to threaten them and say horrible, horrible sexual things to them. Sadly, your daughter likely needs YEARS of Residential Treatment Center (RTC) not weeks. I suggest writing a parent report (see the link in my signature below). The parent report is a ""work in progress" and as you write it and review it things may suddenly click that you hadn't put together previously. Have your husband participate in writing/reviewing it. Often each parent will recall different events. I agree with calling CPS and stating that you feel that a family environment cannot keep others safe from her and that she needs to be in a staffed facility where she can get both intensive treatment and 24/7 eyes-on supervision. Document! Document! Document! your efforts to get her into a secure facility so that if she is forced back to your house and something goes wrong, you have some 'proof' that you did all you could to keep others safe. You may want to meet withsomeone from the DAs office as well. It sounds like she did not attach to you. Having her placed in a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) or other facility will not feel like an abandonment to her since she'd have to be attached to feel abandoned. The number one priority has to be to keep other children safe from her and a close second would be to get her intensive treatment. Please be aware that many times, children who do things like this will often make false allegations to distract from their guilt (your husband should never be alone with her). I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. MWM already posted and there is at least one other member that had a similar situation who posts a couple times per week, I'm sure she'll add her support later this week. (((Hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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