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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 497391" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I'm glad you came back but am sorry you feel overwhelmed- although it's understandable. We really aren't catastrophic thinkers here, it's just we (collectively) have seen where situations with our kids can lead us and the sooner we get things diocumented and learn who in the real world is helping and who is BS'ing, the quicker we can be more effective in our efforts with our kids. You have done a good job by contacting these various people- it gets things documented in several places and shows your ddesire to do whatever should be done. This is a concern because even though it might not lead to a legal issue this time, without intervention it probably will in the future and most states/jurisdictions will look at the parents as the cause first- well, maybe not the cause but the first question will most liikely be "what have the parents done to prevent this or address this"? So, you have tried to cover that. Given that even cps isn't taking this too serious, I'd recommend switching from private therapists to the local mental health dept. I cringed when it was recommended to me for my son because I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that the private therapists and psychiatris were much more competent, educated, and experienced than those in our local mental health dept. So I didn't do it. However, what that meant was that once my son got in trouble legally, the first gov agency he was in was Department of Juvenile Justice, not dpet. of mental health- and what that means is that Department of Juvenile Justice calls the shots, not mental health. Now don't get me wrong, I didn't want my son to get off scott free for what he'd done wrong, but in the state I'm in, the first agency that gets the child has to cover the cost of all services so that means he can't get gov provided services from any agency other than Department of Juvenile Justice and those services will never do anything exxcept a behavior contract and now, anger management classes. If he'd gotten into the mental health dept first, he still could have been in trouble legally but would have gotten services from MH on top of it. </p><p></p><p>Sorry- I got off track- I think an appointment/evaluation from your local MH dept would be my next step and tell them all the people you've contacted and what they have told you. I'm assuming she goes to a public school- if so, you can bet that if/when they catch wind of this, they are going to have an issue if some public agency isn't involved.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 497391, member: 3699"] I'm glad you came back but am sorry you feel overwhelmed- although it's understandable. We really aren't catastrophic thinkers here, it's just we (collectively) have seen where situations with our kids can lead us and the sooner we get things diocumented and learn who in the real world is helping and who is BS'ing, the quicker we can be more effective in our efforts with our kids. You have done a good job by contacting these various people- it gets things documented in several places and shows your ddesire to do whatever should be done. This is a concern because even though it might not lead to a legal issue this time, without intervention it probably will in the future and most states/jurisdictions will look at the parents as the cause first- well, maybe not the cause but the first question will most liikely be "what have the parents done to prevent this or address this"? So, you have tried to cover that. Given that even cps isn't taking this too serious, I'd recommend switching from private therapists to the local mental health dept. I cringed when it was recommended to me for my son because I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that the private therapists and psychiatris were much more competent, educated, and experienced than those in our local mental health dept. So I didn't do it. However, what that meant was that once my son got in trouble legally, the first gov agency he was in was Department of Juvenile Justice, not dpet. of mental health- and what that means is that Department of Juvenile Justice calls the shots, not mental health. Now don't get me wrong, I didn't want my son to get off scott free for what he'd done wrong, but in the state I'm in, the first agency that gets the child has to cover the cost of all services so that means he can't get gov provided services from any agency other than Department of Juvenile Justice and those services will never do anything exxcept a behavior contract and now, anger management classes. If he'd gotten into the mental health dept first, he still could have been in trouble legally but would have gotten services from MH on top of it. Sorry- I got off track- I think an appointment/evaluation from your local MH dept would be my next step and tell them all the people you've contacted and what they have told you. I'm assuming she goes to a public school- if so, you can bet that if/when they catch wind of this, they are going to have an issue if some public agency isn't involved. [/QUOTE]
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