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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 497523" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>The only reason that we, as parents, did not get into extreme trouble for the child's sexual abuse was because we called CPS as soon as we found ou what he had been doingt. If your child hurts somebody else's child and it is documented that you knew she was dangerous, I'm not sure what they would do. If anything. But we were told, by people far more "in the know" than we are, to call CPS or it could be OUR tails on the line. We could lose our other kids. Because we had two kids that he perped on, CPS was in our lives for a long time, but they were very helpful and sympathetic. If we had not called them almost right away, I am not sure what would have happened.</p><p></p><p>You have GREAT insight into your daughter...trust me, it was the same for my son. He had been in an abusive, neglectful home where Mom had almost killed him because of her neglect and then went from one home to another in rapid succession and none stable. I'm sure he was molested at one point. The sad fact is, we can not change his past..nor could we save him from it. He didn't want to be loved by the time we got him and was way too damaged to live in a family, but he was so good at hiding it that nobody told us he was anything except a great kid. </p><p></p><p>Although we could not save him, we tried our best by telling CPS about him and getting him out of the community so that he could not act out his anger a nd dysfunction and sexuality on any other children. There is a good probability that your daughter has sexually abused other children as well as the ones that you know about. She is dangerous, regardless of what made her that way. </p><p></p><p>Once our child was put into a juvie center, he STILL tried to perp on other kids. This is with camera running everywhere. He had no remorse for his actions and no real understanding as to why he did what he did and no memory of being abused, although obviously he had been. </p><p></p><p>We, as adoptive parents, have big hearts and want to help and NEVER want to think that any child is a hopeless case. That's why we adopted this boy and how we felt. We learned the hard way that it's not true. There are kids who can not be helped because it is too late. The system has failed them. But, even though it is the system's fault, the child we had could not live safely in a community without putting every young child he met at risk. And he could be charming. I could just see him getting a young child to trust him (shudder).</p><p></p><p>You are good people and you meant well, just like we did. </p><p></p><p>If you take your daughter for counseling anywhere, as mandatory reporters, they are going to have to tell CPS and turn her in anyway. I wish all of you good luck. Please...don't let your child wander the neighborhood unsupervised.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and keep us posted. We all realize how difficult this is for your entire family.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 497523, member: 1550"] The only reason that we, as parents, did not get into extreme trouble for the child's sexual abuse was because we called CPS as soon as we found ou what he had been doingt. If your child hurts somebody else's child and it is documented that you knew she was dangerous, I'm not sure what they would do. If anything. But we were told, by people far more "in the know" than we are, to call CPS or it could be OUR tails on the line. We could lose our other kids. Because we had two kids that he perped on, CPS was in our lives for a long time, but they were very helpful and sympathetic. If we had not called them almost right away, I am not sure what would have happened. You have GREAT insight into your daughter...trust me, it was the same for my son. He had been in an abusive, neglectful home where Mom had almost killed him because of her neglect and then went from one home to another in rapid succession and none stable. I'm sure he was molested at one point. The sad fact is, we can not change his past..nor could we save him from it. He didn't want to be loved by the time we got him and was way too damaged to live in a family, but he was so good at hiding it that nobody told us he was anything except a great kid. Although we could not save him, we tried our best by telling CPS about him and getting him out of the community so that he could not act out his anger a nd dysfunction and sexuality on any other children. There is a good probability that your daughter has sexually abused other children as well as the ones that you know about. She is dangerous, regardless of what made her that way. Once our child was put into a juvie center, he STILL tried to perp on other kids. This is with camera running everywhere. He had no remorse for his actions and no real understanding as to why he did what he did and no memory of being abused, although obviously he had been. We, as adoptive parents, have big hearts and want to help and NEVER want to think that any child is a hopeless case. That's why we adopted this boy and how we felt. We learned the hard way that it's not true. There are kids who can not be helped because it is too late. The system has failed them. But, even though it is the system's fault, the child we had could not live safely in a community without putting every young child he met at risk. And he could be charming. I could just see him getting a young child to trust him (shudder). You are good people and you meant well, just like we did. If you take your daughter for counseling anywhere, as mandatory reporters, they are going to have to tell CPS and turn her in anyway. I wish all of you good luck. Please...don't let your child wander the neighborhood unsupervised. Hugs and keep us posted. We all realize how difficult this is for your entire family. [/QUOTE]
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