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<blockquote data-quote="kwioake" data-source="post: 498251" data-attributes="member: 13579"><p>Thank you for asking...trying to balance tasks with some rest. Before we adopted my daughter, the only thing we really knew about her was that she was "shy and quiet," slightly delayed in terms of language and overall physically healthy. When we got to India, it happened to be during Monsoon season. Normally, the orphanages in India do not give the adopted family any history at all about their child. They think that they are doing the kids a favor by giving them a clean slate (since if my daughter was in India, she would never be able to marry anyone other than someone in her situation due to the old caste system). But the worker who was there gave us her "records." The first seven and a half years of her life were recorded in four sheets back and front in Marathi. That was it. So what we know is that our daughter's birth mother tried to kill her, there was no other family, and the mother was brought to a hospital. That is it. We've told my daughter that her mother was too sick to take care of her. Truthfully, my daughter has never really initiated asking us anything about India, her mother, anything...to this day, she has never asked about her father (which we know nothing about)...The only reason she's ever asked us is because people ask her and she wanted something to say. Usually she tells people that she doesn't want to talk about it. </p><p></p><p>We have four very good friends that also adopted from India (one two different children)...all older. While they've had their challenges, they don't come close to ours. The difference (I think) is that their children had some time with their birth parents...all my daughter ever knew from day one of her life was an institution. In India, in order to be eligible for international adoption, you have to be considered and rejected by three families nationally (which her paperwork documents). She is exceptionally beautiful, healthy physically and yet she was rejected three times...the thing I don't understand is why it took over six years before she was even eligible for international adoption (it took us about a year from the time we first said we'd adopt her until we could go over and get her)...There are so many questions that we'll never get answered. I don't think there are records beyond what we have....it is all very, very sad...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="kwioake, post: 498251, member: 13579"] Thank you for asking...trying to balance tasks with some rest. Before we adopted my daughter, the only thing we really knew about her was that she was "shy and quiet," slightly delayed in terms of language and overall physically healthy. When we got to India, it happened to be during Monsoon season. Normally, the orphanages in India do not give the adopted family any history at all about their child. They think that they are doing the kids a favor by giving them a clean slate (since if my daughter was in India, she would never be able to marry anyone other than someone in her situation due to the old caste system). But the worker who was there gave us her "records." The first seven and a half years of her life were recorded in four sheets back and front in Marathi. That was it. So what we know is that our daughter's birth mother tried to kill her, there was no other family, and the mother was brought to a hospital. That is it. We've told my daughter that her mother was too sick to take care of her. Truthfully, my daughter has never really initiated asking us anything about India, her mother, anything...to this day, she has never asked about her father (which we know nothing about)...The only reason she's ever asked us is because people ask her and she wanted something to say. Usually she tells people that she doesn't want to talk about it. We have four very good friends that also adopted from India (one two different children)...all older. While they've had their challenges, they don't come close to ours. The difference (I think) is that their children had some time with their birth parents...all my daughter ever knew from day one of her life was an institution. In India, in order to be eligible for international adoption, you have to be considered and rejected by three families nationally (which her paperwork documents). She is exceptionally beautiful, healthy physically and yet she was rejected three times...the thing I don't understand is why it took over six years before she was even eligible for international adoption (it took us about a year from the time we first said we'd adopt her until we could go over and get her)...There are so many questions that we'll never get answered. I don't think there are records beyond what we have....it is all very, very sad... [/QUOTE]
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