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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 622966" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>While I understand your distress, I would be cautious of removing them. Maybe if you make some bigger changes and take all the pictures off the walls, but just taking pictures of him off would be very powerful symbolic gesture that could be very hurtful to him and also your easy child. It is so easy to interpret something like that as an attempt to wipe out the past or try to remove his existence from your family or memories. While that is not of course your meaning, that is how others, including both of your children and even your husband, could easily see it.</p><p></p><p>We don't have much pictures of our kids on walls to begin with but my mother in law did remove my difficult child's picture from her shelf couple years ago, when difficult child's transgressions ended up front page of our biggest tabloid. While such a small thing, it felt very powerful to others. Even my husband, who is a mommy's golden boy and who was also furious with difficult child, was really taken aback and angry about that. My easy child didn't talk with his granny for some time, even though I tried to tell him it is his granny's shelf, she can keep whatever pictures she chooses on it and remove whatever she doesn't want there, and now it is a common joke among both husband's siblings and their kids, when they mess up (even in smallest things) how now Granny will take their picture off the shelf.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 622966, member: 14557"] While I understand your distress, I would be cautious of removing them. Maybe if you make some bigger changes and take all the pictures off the walls, but just taking pictures of him off would be very powerful symbolic gesture that could be very hurtful to him and also your easy child. It is so easy to interpret something like that as an attempt to wipe out the past or try to remove his existence from your family or memories. While that is not of course your meaning, that is how others, including both of your children and even your husband, could easily see it. We don't have much pictures of our kids on walls to begin with but my mother in law did remove my difficult child's picture from her shelf couple years ago, when difficult child's transgressions ended up front page of our biggest tabloid. While such a small thing, it felt very powerful to others. Even my husband, who is a mommy's golden boy and who was also furious with difficult child, was really taken aback and angry about that. My easy child didn't talk with his granny for some time, even though I tried to tell him it is his granny's shelf, she can keep whatever pictures she chooses on it and remove whatever she doesn't want there, and now it is a common joke among both husband's siblings and their kids, when they mess up (even in smallest things) how now Granny will take their picture off the shelf. [/QUOTE]
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