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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 251897" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>While at the facility, difficult child would have to live with strict structure. Find out what that structure is and implement it the moment he walks into your home. Make a poster with the times and activities just like we do for the little kids.</p><p> </p><p>______ am Wake up (it is very important to have a wake up time - don't let him get into the habit of sleeping in)</p><p> </p><p>______ Straighten bedroom</p><p> </p><p>______ am Breakfast (again, important to have a set time)</p><p> </p><p>______ lunch </p><p> </p><p>______ pm Supper</p><p> </p><p>______ pm Straighten up bedroom</p><p> </p><p>______ pm Shower and ready for bed</p><p> </p><p>______ pm Lights out</p><p> </p><p>Find out the times the facility did the above. Decide if you are willing to go with the facilities times or want to face a battle of changing the times.</p><p> </p><p>Before the family meeting I hope you will be able to meet with the facility staff. Ask them about their schedule and how difficult child adheres to it. Ask them to support your decision to implement a similar schedule at home.</p><p></p><p>Also, post household rules - no bad language, no teasing, no put downs, ect.</p><p> </p><p>Your easy child is wrapped into this more than you think. He is afraid of difficult child coming home. Does he have someone to talk to? Can he talk to the facility staff before the family meeting to discuss his concerns? They need to know that their decision to discharge difficult child may be in haste. They are not looking at the whole picture. People do not change "overnight" and being STABLE does not mean being strong and healthy.</p><p> </p><p>Stay safe. Even if you get the tiniest feeling of, "Do I make this call?" then make the call - you may not have time to analys it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 251897, member: 5096"] While at the facility, difficult child would have to live with strict structure. Find out what that structure is and implement it the moment he walks into your home. Make a poster with the times and activities just like we do for the little kids. ______ am Wake up (it is very important to have a wake up time - don't let him get into the habit of sleeping in) ______ Straighten bedroom ______ am Breakfast (again, important to have a set time) ______ lunch ______ pm Supper ______ pm Straighten up bedroom ______ pm Shower and ready for bed ______ pm Lights out Find out the times the facility did the above. Decide if you are willing to go with the facilities times or want to face a battle of changing the times. Before the family meeting I hope you will be able to meet with the facility staff. Ask them about their schedule and how difficult child adheres to it. Ask them to support your decision to implement a similar schedule at home. Also, post household rules - no bad language, no teasing, no put downs, ect. Your easy child is wrapped into this more than you think. He is afraid of difficult child coming home. Does he have someone to talk to? Can he talk to the facility staff before the family meeting to discuss his concerns? They need to know that their decision to discharge difficult child may be in haste. They are not looking at the whole picture. People do not change "overnight" and being STABLE does not mean being strong and healthy. Stay safe. Even if you get the tiniest feeling of, "Do I make this call?" then make the call - you may not have time to analys it. [/QUOTE]
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