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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 251978" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Honey, this is a tough call. I think you should evaluate your options. </p><p></p><p>You can continue to do all the stuff husband cant or wont, including the difficult child stuff. This does mean continueing to put yourself AND your child in danger. If difficult child hates you as much as he may, this could be serious, life threatening danger to you.</p><p></p><p>You can find a friend to go live with and share bills with, or go to your parents or another relative for help.</p><p></p><p>You can go to a woman's shelter for a week to learn about your options and gain some support. Just make sure your son has a place to go.</p><p></p><p>You can leave him for a separation.</p><p></p><p>You can stay home and insist difficult child go with his father for those 70 hours this week to see if husband can handle the real picture of what is going on.</p><p></p><p>You can go on household strike, refusing to do any housework because you are way to oveerburdened dealing with difficult child issues.</p><p></p><p>I am sure there are other options, or ways to combine these options.</p><p></p><p>But if husband will not accept getting a long term solution to difficult child ASAP, then it falls to YOU to do something.</p><p></p><p>You do NOT have a choice about finding a way to help YOUR son, including therapy though. Your son and his safety and well being must be your number one priority.</p><p></p><p>One thing to think about as you make your choices. If husband had been more involved with difficult child, difficult child might have gotten help long before it came to this point. When a child has problems it isn't always the parents' fault. But when the child was allowed to run wild at one parent's home and the other parent let it happen, knowingly or unknowingly, the parent who let it happen with-o stepping in at signs of neglect/abuse/whatever bears responsibility also.</p><p></p><p>PLEASE think carefully and begin to formulate your strategy and plans. I support you completely.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 251978, member: 1233"] Honey, this is a tough call. I think you should evaluate your options. You can continue to do all the stuff husband cant or wont, including the difficult child stuff. This does mean continueing to put yourself AND your child in danger. If difficult child hates you as much as he may, this could be serious, life threatening danger to you. You can find a friend to go live with and share bills with, or go to your parents or another relative for help. You can go to a woman's shelter for a week to learn about your options and gain some support. Just make sure your son has a place to go. You can leave him for a separation. You can stay home and insist difficult child go with his father for those 70 hours this week to see if husband can handle the real picture of what is going on. You can go on household strike, refusing to do any housework because you are way to oveerburdened dealing with difficult child issues. I am sure there are other options, or ways to combine these options. But if husband will not accept getting a long term solution to difficult child ASAP, then it falls to YOU to do something. You do NOT have a choice about finding a way to help YOUR son, including therapy though. Your son and his safety and well being must be your number one priority. One thing to think about as you make your choices. If husband had been more involved with difficult child, difficult child might have gotten help long before it came to this point. When a child has problems it isn't always the parents' fault. But when the child was allowed to run wild at one parent's home and the other parent let it happen, knowingly or unknowingly, the parent who let it happen with-o stepping in at signs of neglect/abuse/whatever bears responsibility also. PLEASE think carefully and begin to formulate your strategy and plans. I support you completely. [/QUOTE]
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