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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 410965" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>OK... I'm going to pretend to be this "friend". At least I'm going to try. If I upset you, I'm sorry in advance. (I'm there right now, though I also have a difficult child, so... Sigh.) This is kind of my take on her thoughts on the situation. Honestly - when you are in the middle of not being able to have your own child, and trying, and wanting to - just <em>hearing</em> about someone who isn't taking care of their child, or may not be able to, is enough to send you off the deep end. (In my case? There isn't anything wrong with ME.) The other thing is - when you are in the middle of drama with your difficult child - you want other people to care, even if you don't want them to know everything. You need someone to talk to. And then your BFF has their own problems, and they really don't want to deal with yours too. It's hard, from either perspective. (Hey! Both sides at once, for me!)</p><p> </p><p><em>I'm dealing with this whole mess 'cause I can't have a baby. It really stinks. All these other people who don't even take care of themselves or their kids have babies left and right, and I can't. And it's not MY FAULT. I didn't do anything wrong, and here is my friend, E. And she HAS a kid. And her KID, who seems to be a real PITA, and does not take care of herself, and even SHE gets to have a baby. But not me. And I KNOW I'd take good care of a child. But E doesn't seem to get it, she just wants to complain all the time about this kid. Doesn't she understand? Her problems with K are done. Mine are NOW! She needs to just blow this kid off, 'cause there's nothing she can do now.</em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 410965, member: 6705"] OK... I'm going to pretend to be this "friend". At least I'm going to try. If I upset you, I'm sorry in advance. (I'm there right now, though I also have a difficult child, so... Sigh.) This is kind of my take on her thoughts on the situation. Honestly - when you are in the middle of not being able to have your own child, and trying, and wanting to - just [I]hearing[/I] about someone who isn't taking care of their child, or may not be able to, is enough to send you off the deep end. (In my case? There isn't anything wrong with ME.) The other thing is - when you are in the middle of drama with your difficult child - you want other people to care, even if you don't want them to know everything. You need someone to talk to. And then your BFF has their own problems, and they really don't want to deal with yours too. It's hard, from either perspective. (Hey! Both sides at once, for me!) [I]I'm dealing with this whole mess 'cause I can't have a baby. It really stinks. All these other people who don't even take care of themselves or their kids have babies left and right, and I can't. And it's not MY FAULT. I didn't do anything wrong, and here is my friend, E. And she HAS a kid. And her KID, who seems to be a real PITA, and does not take care of herself, and even SHE gets to have a baby. But not me. And I KNOW I'd take good care of a child. But E doesn't seem to get it, she just wants to complain all the time about this kid. Doesn't she understand? Her problems with K are done. Mine are NOW! She needs to just blow this kid off, 'cause there's nothing she can do now.[/I] [/QUOTE]
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