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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 655581" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>So...he called earlier and asked about how to get ahold of the prosecutor. I was busy, but I did call him back to explain...he's been shuffled off from person to person today and that's because the PA only takes calls on Wednesday. Anyway, he was on the phone when I called, but returned the call and said he'd been talking to Job Corps and it went very well. He said that they told him that he'd need to come tomorrow - with a parent - to sign up. This doesn't surprise me. My friend's husband also had a sign paperwork stating he would no longer support his son since the boy was living at home. In our case, it's because we've been paying his rent. They also told him he either has to get his community service completed or waived or it might result in a delay of several months. I will, of course, be verifying this myself when I go to Job Corps...I'm not taking his word for it.</p><p> </p><p>Yes, I'm going. If he's serious and really wants to go, they won't let him without one of us signing the non-support documents.</p><p> </p><p>He, of course, wants ME to talk to the prosecutor about waiving the community service. I might. I might not. I haven't decided. Sometimes being a lawyer really sucks....because my inclination to say yes stems more from that than from being his mom. My mom impulse is to say no. But I find my first impulse when upset with him is probably not necessarily the best impulse. Yeah...going to have to think about that.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>If it had been anyone besides our son, I'd have been right there with you honey. I still don't know exactly why we didn't press charges against the first two people we had steal from us. That was just dumb of us.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Actually, I just expected her to be some MILF. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite7" alt=":p" title="Stick Out Tongue :p" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":p" /> Or at least passably attractive.</p><p> </p><p>I'm kind of embarrassed I ever mentioned it...but it didn't have anything to do with sheltering and assisting. I just expected her to be physically kind of hot in a skanky kind of way.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>I don't know if he's devious enough to have planned that...but he definitely wanted to pick an actual fight, trying to prove he's big and bad, or trying to get Jabber in trouble, I don't know which. He'd have been very sorry if that had happened - because he'd find his mom backing dad - not him. I told the cops there that he'd started it.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Us <u>allowing</u> it isn't the problem. Him constantly trying to force it is.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>I'd agree with this if I thought there was actually an addiction problem...I don't. That's what's so confusing about this. I'm certainly not ruling out some form of drug abuse...but he's certainly not doing what he was before (and during) college when he was just sitting around stoned 80% (90?) of the time. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>I hope to God that the second part: "one small step to start doing something new for himself" is what this is. I'm afraid that Job Corps will just be the first thing instead, "somebody else to take care of him".</p><p> </p><p>That's just a recipe for failure.</p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>Of course not. It's not his word I'm trusting. Or him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 655581, member: 17309"] So...he called earlier and asked about how to get ahold of the prosecutor. I was busy, but I did call him back to explain...he's been shuffled off from person to person today and that's because the PA only takes calls on Wednesday. Anyway, he was on the phone when I called, but returned the call and said he'd been talking to Job Corps and it went very well. He said that they told him that he'd need to come tomorrow - with a parent - to sign up. This doesn't surprise me. My friend's husband also had a sign paperwork stating he would no longer support his son since the boy was living at home. In our case, it's because we've been paying his rent. They also told him he either has to get his community service completed or waived or it might result in a delay of several months. I will, of course, be verifying this myself when I go to Job Corps...I'm not taking his word for it. Yes, I'm going. If he's serious and really wants to go, they won't let him without one of us signing the non-support documents. He, of course, wants ME to talk to the prosecutor about waiving the community service. I might. I might not. I haven't decided. Sometimes being a lawyer really sucks....because my inclination to say yes stems more from that than from being his mom. My mom impulse is to say no. But I find my first impulse when upset with him is probably not necessarily the best impulse. Yeah...going to have to think about that. If it had been anyone besides our son, I'd have been right there with you honey. I still don't know exactly why we didn't press charges against the first two people we had steal from us. That was just dumb of us. Actually, I just expected her to be some MILF. :p Or at least passably attractive. I'm kind of embarrassed I ever mentioned it...but it didn't have anything to do with sheltering and assisting. I just expected her to be physically kind of hot in a skanky kind of way. I don't know if he's devious enough to have planned that...but he definitely wanted to pick an actual fight, trying to prove he's big and bad, or trying to get Jabber in trouble, I don't know which. He'd have been very sorry if that had happened - because he'd find his mom backing dad - not him. I told the cops there that he'd started it. Us [U]allowing[/U] it isn't the problem. Him constantly trying to force it is. I'd agree with this if I thought there was actually an addiction problem...I don't. That's what's so confusing about this. I'm certainly not ruling out some form of drug abuse...but he's certainly not doing what he was before (and during) college when he was just sitting around stoned 80% (90?) of the time. I hope to God that the second part: "one small step to start doing something new for himself" is what this is. I'm afraid that Job Corps will just be the first thing instead, "somebody else to take care of him". That's just a recipe for failure. Of course not. It's not his word I'm trusting. Or him. [/QUOTE]
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