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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 656218" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Hi again, Lil</p><p></p><p>As Cedar says, this is not easy. It is tough, tough, tough (if I repeat tough again, will it help?)</p><p></p><p>It is easy for me to talk. The better I do with this, understanding it, setting actual limits, staying out of my son's business...the more I stay in bed, feel physical pain.</p><p></p><p>As I recognize how little control I do have, I get sadder and sadder. There is a huge grief in this.</p><p></p><p>I do not yet know where it comes from, but I think it may have to do with early losses in my life.</p><p></p><p>I had a father that behaved badly and self-destructed and a mother who was unavailable. As a tiny girl, I took responsibility and blame on myself because that is what children do, so their world feels less scary.</p><p></p><p>I am wondering if this is what my grief is about.</p><p></p><p>As a child I was powerless to influence important people in my life to do the right thing by me and I have for the most part warded off these feelings until now.</p><p></p><p>Over everything, I do not want to keep playing out what is my own unfortunate history with my child.</p><p></p><p>SWOT, are those your dogs in the Avatar and what kind are they?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 656218, member: 18958"] Hi again, Lil As Cedar says, this is not easy. It is tough, tough, tough (if I repeat tough again, will it help?) It is easy for me to talk. The better I do with this, understanding it, setting actual limits, staying out of my son's business...the more I stay in bed, feel physical pain. As I recognize how little control I do have, I get sadder and sadder. There is a huge grief in this. I do not yet know where it comes from, but I think it may have to do with early losses in my life. I had a father that behaved badly and self-destructed and a mother who was unavailable. As a tiny girl, I took responsibility and blame on myself because that is what children do, so their world feels less scary. I am wondering if this is what my grief is about. As a child I was powerless to influence important people in my life to do the right thing by me and I have for the most part warded off these feelings until now. Over everything, I do not want to keep playing out what is my own unfortunate history with my child. SWOT, are those your dogs in the Avatar and what kind are they? [/QUOTE]
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