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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 656609" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Here I come. "It helped me to...." But I do think this might help. And I am pretty certain you have already done it, but if you haven't: What is your plan for if he should fail abysmally at each of ~ or at any one of, the tasks ~ the Community Service, the windows, the Job Corps?</p><p></p><p>If you have a plan for the worst, you will be able to stay steady-state.</p><p></p><p>If you have a plan for the best, you will be able to stay steady-state.</p><p></p><p>It isn't about your son, because it cannot be. Since you have done all you can and continue to be there for him in every healthy way <em>and since you always were</em>, now could be a time when you make a plan for how your response will look, for how it will look as you stand up and survive whatever comes next ~ good or bad. </p><p></p><p>What would be your best imaginary response to each potential upcoming failure or success?</p><p></p><p>Who and how do you strive to be, going through it?</p><p></p><p>What would happen if you told him he needed to find his own way to window washing?</p><p></p><p>This is a secret thing I know: We could all be considered lazy by someone. Just depends on who you ask and on how you are looking. So, lazy is not part of the equation. It is a question of will.</p><p></p><p>He may come through this yet.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 656609, member: 17461"] Here I come. "It helped me to...." But I do think this might help. And I am pretty certain you have already done it, but if you haven't: What is your plan for if he should fail abysmally at each of ~ or at any one of, the tasks ~ the Community Service, the windows, the Job Corps? If you have a plan for the worst, you will be able to stay steady-state. If you have a plan for the best, you will be able to stay steady-state. It isn't about your son, because it cannot be. Since you have done all you can and continue to be there for him in every healthy way [I]and since you always were[/I], now could be a time when you make a plan for how your response will look, for how it will look as you stand up and survive whatever comes next ~ good or bad. What would be your best imaginary response to each potential upcoming failure or success? Who and how do you strive to be, going through it? What would happen if you told him he needed to find his own way to window washing? This is a secret thing I know: We could all be considered lazy by someone. Just depends on who you ask and on how you are looking. So, lazy is not part of the equation. It is a question of will. He may come through this yet. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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