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From Innocence to Entitlement: A Love and Logic Cure for the Tragedy of Entitlement
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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 590887" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Hi Sus, </p><p></p><p>Honestly, It starts very young in my opinion. And it is fostered out of what seems like "love" or "efficiency". </p><p>I know that I come from 2 generations of mom's who did EVERYTHING, sigh, I expected the same from myself. </p><p>I have a mom who would (and still does) take over when I didn't do something the way she thinks it should be done...or she will go back over it in front of me after I think I have completed a task. I did much the same with my difficult child's. I also felt it my responsibility to ensure they got good grades so homework often became MY homework, my book report, my science fair project, etc. </p><p>I think wanting to make it seemingly "easier and quicker" is where this comes from. </p><p>I am trying hard to change my ways with my grandchildren. </p><p></p><p>Recently, my grandson came up to me to help him get his helmet off after he had gone for a bike ride with his little sister and husband. Well, in the past, I would have unfastened the snap on the helmet for him...but instead I taught him how to do it FOR HIMSELF with instructions that he was willing to follow. </p><p>And that I think is key...Not doing for them what they are capable of learning to do for self. </p><p>Sure, it can take longer...but there is a BIGGER price to pay if we don't empower our children and teach them how to be self sufficient!</p><p></p><p>Uhg...I wish I had known better when they were little.</p><p>LMS</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 590887, member: 3305"] Hi Sus, Honestly, It starts very young in my opinion. And it is fostered out of what seems like "love" or "efficiency". I know that I come from 2 generations of mom's who did EVERYTHING, sigh, I expected the same from myself. I have a mom who would (and still does) take over when I didn't do something the way she thinks it should be done...or she will go back over it in front of me after I think I have completed a task. I did much the same with my difficult child's. I also felt it my responsibility to ensure they got good grades so homework often became MY homework, my book report, my science fair project, etc. I think wanting to make it seemingly "easier and quicker" is where this comes from. I am trying hard to change my ways with my grandchildren. Recently, my grandson came up to me to help him get his helmet off after he had gone for a bike ride with his little sister and husband. Well, in the past, I would have unfastened the snap on the helmet for him...but instead I taught him how to do it FOR HIMSELF with instructions that he was willing to follow. And that I think is key...Not doing for them what they are capable of learning to do for self. Sure, it can take longer...but there is a BIGGER price to pay if we don't empower our children and teach them how to be self sufficient! Uhg...I wish I had known better when they were little. LMS [/QUOTE]
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