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<blockquote data-quote="Meganb87" data-source="post: 744889" data-attributes="member: 23531"><p>Everything started when my youngest son who’s six now was 3. It was a ruff time his dad just started to want to see him and he hadn’t seen him since he was 6 months old. We did supervised visits and saw a therapist to start off visits so my son could get used to his dad. Well I already knew he had adhd real bad but as visits started and everything my son was then diagnosed with ODD. Which I thought was strange cause he never acted like this before. As time went on I was learning what to do when he threw a fit and was aggressive. Well soon after supervised visits were done he saw him once a week and then my son came home with a bruise right across his face which he had stated his dad had done it and Cps was involved and closed the case because he was back to supervised visits. Well supervised visits have been over with for 2yrs now and my son is just getting worse. I know I sound horrible because at first when I found out I was pregnant with him I looked at abortion and adoption because my middle son just turned one was going through divorce and I didn’t want another child. But I didn’t I had him and don’t get me wrong I love him more then life itself. But with how bad things get sometimes I wonder what if I did abort him or put him up for adoption maybe he wouldn’t have the disorder or if I was a better mom he wouldn’t have this. When he was a baby I had to goto work 2 weeks after he was born because his dad didn’t work and when I left after a year and a half later I found out he didn’t take care of him my oldest son who’s 11 now was taking care of him making his bottles and if he asked how to make his bottle my youngest sons dad would tell him he should know it’s his job. And I hate this man still today he did a lot to my kids that I didn’t know about til I left. But back to my youngest he cries every time he has to goto his dads and begs me to let him stay here but I can’t I’ve been fighting for him since the day his dad decided he wanted to be one. Courts won’t change their mind. But my son went from a loving sweetest boy to an aggressive mad demon child. He started kindergarten in sept and he’s been kicked out of school twice. He punches the teachers cusses at them and when I come to get him he yells at me and calls me horrible names. I finally got him evaluated and he still has the ODD and has a worker who sees him once a week at school. I don’t see anything helping he physically abuses my babysitter and his older brothers and little sister. His dad says he doesn’t act this way at his house but I don't know what to believe on that. I keep trying to look for ways to help like blowing bubbles or blowing up a balloon. But nothing is calming him down. He is on medicine for his adhd but I don’t even think that’s working anymore. I keep researching to find ideas and other ways to handle him. Now I am a lay back parent and my kids learn by doing. Like my youngest wouldn’t stop tipping his chair back no matter how many times I have told him not to but then he busted his head open from doing so and he learned his lesson. But things with his behavior is getting worse and sometimes I feel like just giving him to his dad and say u deal with him even though I know that is not the right choice. I just don’t know what to do anymore and how to handle it. Please tell me I’m not the only parent dealing with this or feels like this cause I feel like the worse mother in the world.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Meganb87, post: 744889, member: 23531"] Everything started when my youngest son who’s six now was 3. It was a ruff time his dad just started to want to see him and he hadn’t seen him since he was 6 months old. We did supervised visits and saw a therapist to start off visits so my son could get used to his dad. Well I already knew he had adhd real bad but as visits started and everything my son was then diagnosed with ODD. Which I thought was strange cause he never acted like this before. As time went on I was learning what to do when he threw a fit and was aggressive. Well soon after supervised visits were done he saw him once a week and then my son came home with a bruise right across his face which he had stated his dad had done it and Cps was involved and closed the case because he was back to supervised visits. Well supervised visits have been over with for 2yrs now and my son is just getting worse. I know I sound horrible because at first when I found out I was pregnant with him I looked at abortion and adoption because my middle son just turned one was going through divorce and I didn’t want another child. But I didn’t I had him and don’t get me wrong I love him more then life itself. But with how bad things get sometimes I wonder what if I did abort him or put him up for adoption maybe he wouldn’t have the disorder or if I was a better mom he wouldn’t have this. When he was a baby I had to goto work 2 weeks after he was born because his dad didn’t work and when I left after a year and a half later I found out he didn’t take care of him my oldest son who’s 11 now was taking care of him making his bottles and if he asked how to make his bottle my youngest sons dad would tell him he should know it’s his job. And I hate this man still today he did a lot to my kids that I didn’t know about til I left. But back to my youngest he cries every time he has to goto his dads and begs me to let him stay here but I can’t I’ve been fighting for him since the day his dad decided he wanted to be one. Courts won’t change their mind. But my son went from a loving sweetest boy to an aggressive mad demon child. He started kindergarten in sept and he’s been kicked out of school twice. He punches the teachers cusses at them and when I come to get him he yells at me and calls me horrible names. I finally got him evaluated and he still has the ODD and has a worker who sees him once a week at school. I don’t see anything helping he physically abuses my babysitter and his older brothers and little sister. His dad says he doesn’t act this way at his house but I don't know what to believe on that. I keep trying to look for ways to help like blowing bubbles or blowing up a balloon. But nothing is calming him down. He is on medicine for his adhd but I don’t even think that’s working anymore. I keep researching to find ideas and other ways to handle him. Now I am a lay back parent and my kids learn by doing. Like my youngest wouldn’t stop tipping his chair back no matter how many times I have told him not to but then he busted his head open from doing so and he learned his lesson. But things with his behavior is getting worse and sometimes I feel like just giving him to his dad and say u deal with him even though I know that is not the right choice. I just don’t know what to do anymore and how to handle it. Please tell me I’m not the only parent dealing with this or feels like this cause I feel like the worse mother in the world. [/QUOTE]
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