I know that I dont post on here much..mostly cuz I dont have time! I look around but usually when I am at work and cant always take the time to comment, but I do get lots of good info from all of you here.. So, as some of you may have noticed by my comments to other thread re: getting difficult child to go to school but here is some background. R just started at our Alternative school at semester time so that he can get caught up on credits and it is easier as far as they dont have homework ect. Well..when R gets into a downslope he either refuses or gets "sick" and cant go to school..this is a cycle we have dealt with forever it seems. We have tried taking things, have consequences and recently resorted to talking to the truancy officer and told him that if he didnt go we would call truancy officer & have him arrested. Anyway..he got sick on Wed..and was truly sick with vomitting and running a fever. Of course Thurs he didnt go to school and even though we talked about it last night he didnt go again today. I talked to him and asked if he felt it was his depression that might be causing this and he thought perhaps it was. So..my frustration right now is that hubby is mad..says we are babying him and letting him use sickness as an excuse to not go to school & avoid the truancy officer. If we take away his things and do other punishments you would with a "normal" kid he rages and our lives are a disaster.. I called him psychiatrist..they are out of office until Monday..But hubby is mad at me for babying him..which I am not...I told him..what the heck do I do when you have a 6'0 kid who wont go to school..claims he is sick..is crying..ect ect ect...what am i to do while i am also trying to get easy child to school and get myself ready for work and out the door... Hubby is at work by 6 am so he isnt home to deal with it..Im just frustrated with hubby right now and tried to tell him well, this is part of the illness and we can get through this too..he just rolls his eyes and says..one more excuse..I know he understands but is just frustrated as well and that is his way of venting I suppose. Anyway ladies..thanks for listening to me.. This is really taking a toll on me..I just feel like if he isnt raging, then he is crazy hyper and going ninty miles and if he isnt doing that he is sleeping and wont get outta bed...I just feel very out of control with it all. I am working from 715 am to 6 pm with very short lunches and am just worn out..No time to take care of things re: therapy ect right now. Hubby is busy working, reffing basketball, doing Natl guard..So I know its kinda our fault that we arent more proactive. We take him to his appts and get his medications..but we have realized that he isnt telling his psychiatrist the truth about how he has been doing..We just need to take the time to get with him and tell him ourselves.. Again..thanks for listening and for this site and all your wonderful words of encouragement.