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<blockquote data-quote="DS3" data-source="post: 458149" data-attributes="member: 12441"><p>I did sort out the toys, and had two garbage bags full ready to go to donation, but they (both difficult child and easy child) found them and brought them back into the house. I haven't been able to sort through them since they dragged them all in (lock is now on the door so they can't get what is still sorted). I do plan on sorting them and not even giving them back half of what is out there. Especially with christmas around the corner. </p><p></p><p>I usually help by 'directing'. Like, find all of the cars and put them in the bin, et cetera. This has worked very well in the past, but this whole weekend he doesn't want to listen and has dug his heels in. I don't know what set it off. </p><p></p><p>I've also noticed then when I ask/tell difficult child to do something like clean up the mess he made, he'll turn around and tell easy child to do it. (funny to a point). So I remind difficult child that I asked him, not easy child to do it. Most times easy child will help anyway. So off difficult child finally goes to get the job done after a reminder and possibly a time out for trying to order his brother around. </p><p></p><p>I have tried to keep a 'clean up' schedule, which usually means picking up the toys right before dinner. Some days it works better then others, depending on how we're running (my schedule has been very full lately). </p><p></p><p>Putting things up high doesn't work. I use to put everything I didn't want him to have either in the garage (now locked down), or on top of the fridge. He would climb on top of the fridge to get what he wasn't suppose to. So now most of it goes into the garage, but then he finds more things. It seems like a never ending battle, but eventually I figure my household goods will be locked in the garage, or he's bound to run out of things. Whichever one comes first. </p><p></p><p>Do I have support? Nope. When I have the extra money, I put them in daycare for a little bit. But that's about it right now (well, besides difficult child being in school for half a day). I'm working on getting some respite care through the EFMP program. Problem is, most of my friends have already PCS'd (moved away), or they really weren't good friends to begin with. I've tried making some new ones, but really haven't had the time as of lately (between difficult child's appointments, my appointments, the dog being a diabetic (regular shot intervals and plenty of vet appointments), school, researching/filling out forms, and trying to finish the claim on my husband's car my friend rolled while looking for a new one, I don't have a whole lot of extra time. Hopefully it calms down soon). </p><p></p><p>So yeah. Not a lot of time nor support. Overall, by the end of the day, I'm happy to go to bed by 10pm since I'm exhausted. This weekend has actually been a 'do-nothing' weekend (well, besides cleaning). It's the first time in almost a month that I've had some time to some-what relax. I won't get another one for about another 2 weeks.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DS3, post: 458149, member: 12441"] I did sort out the toys, and had two garbage bags full ready to go to donation, but they (both difficult child and easy child) found them and brought them back into the house. I haven't been able to sort through them since they dragged them all in (lock is now on the door so they can't get what is still sorted). I do plan on sorting them and not even giving them back half of what is out there. Especially with christmas around the corner. I usually help by 'directing'. Like, find all of the cars and put them in the bin, et cetera. This has worked very well in the past, but this whole weekend he doesn't want to listen and has dug his heels in. I don't know what set it off. I've also noticed then when I ask/tell difficult child to do something like clean up the mess he made, he'll turn around and tell easy child to do it. (funny to a point). So I remind difficult child that I asked him, not easy child to do it. Most times easy child will help anyway. So off difficult child finally goes to get the job done after a reminder and possibly a time out for trying to order his brother around. I have tried to keep a 'clean up' schedule, which usually means picking up the toys right before dinner. Some days it works better then others, depending on how we're running (my schedule has been very full lately). Putting things up high doesn't work. I use to put everything I didn't want him to have either in the garage (now locked down), or on top of the fridge. He would climb on top of the fridge to get what he wasn't suppose to. So now most of it goes into the garage, but then he finds more things. It seems like a never ending battle, but eventually I figure my household goods will be locked in the garage, or he's bound to run out of things. Whichever one comes first. Do I have support? Nope. When I have the extra money, I put them in daycare for a little bit. But that's about it right now (well, besides difficult child being in school for half a day). I'm working on getting some respite care through the EFMP program. Problem is, most of my friends have already PCS'd (moved away), or they really weren't good friends to begin with. I've tried making some new ones, but really haven't had the time as of lately (between difficult child's appointments, my appointments, the dog being a diabetic (regular shot intervals and plenty of vet appointments), school, researching/filling out forms, and trying to finish the claim on my husband's car my friend rolled while looking for a new one, I don't have a whole lot of extra time. Hopefully it calms down soon). So yeah. Not a lot of time nor support. Overall, by the end of the day, I'm happy to go to bed by 10pm since I'm exhausted. This weekend has actually been a 'do-nothing' weekend (well, besides cleaning). It's the first time in almost a month that I've had some time to some-what relax. I won't get another one for about another 2 weeks. [/QUOTE]
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