Hello...my name is Dena. I am new to this forum. Joined because I have a difficult child who is 10 years old and a easy child who is 9. My husband is a submariner in the USNavy and is often deployed. We are stationed at Pearl Harbor, Hawaii. My DEX lives in Ohio with his new family and doesn't have much interaction with my difficult child or my easy child. I was diagnosed ADD as a child and had grown out of it in early adulthood. There is small history for everyone. Now issues...my daughter, difficult child, is ADHD/ODD...and I have anxiety issues...( wonder why ) and it is so difficult for me to really try and big the healthy mom sometimes. Being alone on a rock far away from home is hard to maintain sanity with a difficult child. Very hard. I get little to zero help with her and get thrown back and forth in the Naval Residential Treatment Center (RTC)/Residential Treatment Facility (RTF) system and have even tried loal...non military system as well. It seems many of these psychiatric docs seem to be completely oblivious to children with these disorders and are unable to give parents the right tools for management. I have at times thought I was going to loose my mind with this battle and still feel so 90% of the time. I try and maintain sanity, but it is so hard. i feel alone, basically. I have been given diagnoses for her...saying she is just ADD or she is bipolar. Which is completely absurd! She never ever goes though depression...ever. so how can soemone say she is bipolar? seriously. I ahve no tools..no friends for support in this matter..nothing. My husband , when he is home and not at sea, instills strict discipline and order, which seems to help. I am just drained. I cannot do follow his lead. I know I am not alone and am so glad to have found this group. One more thing...has anyone ever thought that ADHD/ODD is VERY similar to autism? I have been doing alot of research at night, since I have a hard time sleeping...and have noticed more similarities than differences between autistic children and ADHD/ODD children. I wonder if the same medications would work for both? Just a thought. Thanks for reading this. I have no where else to turn.