hi
so we went upstate last night, got there around 2, got to bed at 4 and got to funeral at 9:30 today. was a long day, yet we held up pretty well, husband managed to drive and not crash
i get in, we picked up food on way in it was late and we didnt' want to cook. easy child walks in door, well needless to say all hell breaks lose. as usual.
she sits on couch and watches tv. didnt' come home to walk dogs so we walk into pee and poop on den floor. didn't make a call to say im sorry to any family or my stepfather.
she begins fighting with-difficult child, i ask her to feed cats she continues to sit there so i pulled plug from tv and said if you dont' listen tv goes now also. than she goes on phone i pull that out also.
meanwhile shes' cursing at difficult child and fighting with-her. difficult child who mouthed off to me before they began. it's insanity. difficult child has picked up all of easy child's phrases.... difficult child has never cursed at me yet she uses same lines minus curses. so now she's punished and going to bed early. easy child has lost easy child (she keeps stealing out of our room; so we now lock our bedroom door; got new knob etc. and key lock).
i walked in room, husband fell asleep he's exhausted. he's like are you ok, what's going on out there? i said the usual complete insanity. literally my heart was pounding out of my chest i had to breath thru it.
difficult child's always been a struggle yet is so much more disrespectful to me since watching easy child in action. easy child than started with-me again and i said listen it's simple tmrws' therapy if you do not adhere to some rules here basic due to fact you are a part of this family in 3 weeks you can move out. she said that's my plan i'm not following any rules and i will continue doing what i want when i want.
i'm beginning to think i have zero backbone with easy child, now difficult child's caught on and following same......... and im a person who loves kids yet these two. sheesh i want to run far away seriously i do.
easy child is so negative majority of time and has this sense of entitlement like i've never seen before it's shocking. she adds such negative energy here and i'm tired of feeling bad saying well maybe this that and the other is my fault she's like this,my parenting mistakes. i mean enough is enough already.......
any tips advice anything? besides get easy child out so i can parent difficult child thru the teen years with-o easy child making her worse? it def. may come to that, me opening door at 18 and putting her on street. she complies with-absolutely nothing. refuses to take medications says their for weak ppl nothing wrong with her.
they have no respect i return from funeral, difficult child's pressing to "do something" a movie, go out etc. i said no way we had a long two days than mouths off and i have easy child doing same. my feelings are non existant in their minds
so we went upstate last night, got there around 2, got to bed at 4 and got to funeral at 9:30 today. was a long day, yet we held up pretty well, husband managed to drive and not crash
i get in, we picked up food on way in it was late and we didnt' want to cook. easy child walks in door, well needless to say all hell breaks lose. as usual.
she sits on couch and watches tv. didnt' come home to walk dogs so we walk into pee and poop on den floor. didn't make a call to say im sorry to any family or my stepfather.
she begins fighting with-difficult child, i ask her to feed cats she continues to sit there so i pulled plug from tv and said if you dont' listen tv goes now also. than she goes on phone i pull that out also.
meanwhile shes' cursing at difficult child and fighting with-her. difficult child who mouthed off to me before they began. it's insanity. difficult child has picked up all of easy child's phrases.... difficult child has never cursed at me yet she uses same lines minus curses. so now she's punished and going to bed early. easy child has lost easy child (she keeps stealing out of our room; so we now lock our bedroom door; got new knob etc. and key lock).
i walked in room, husband fell asleep he's exhausted. he's like are you ok, what's going on out there? i said the usual complete insanity. literally my heart was pounding out of my chest i had to breath thru it.
difficult child's always been a struggle yet is so much more disrespectful to me since watching easy child in action. easy child than started with-me again and i said listen it's simple tmrws' therapy if you do not adhere to some rules here basic due to fact you are a part of this family in 3 weeks you can move out. she said that's my plan i'm not following any rules and i will continue doing what i want when i want.
i'm beginning to think i have zero backbone with easy child, now difficult child's caught on and following same......... and im a person who loves kids yet these two. sheesh i want to run far away seriously i do.
easy child is so negative majority of time and has this sense of entitlement like i've never seen before it's shocking. she adds such negative energy here and i'm tired of feeling bad saying well maybe this that and the other is my fault she's like this,my parenting mistakes. i mean enough is enough already.......
any tips advice anything? besides get easy child out so i can parent difficult child thru the teen years with-o easy child making her worse? it def. may come to that, me opening door at 18 and putting her on street. she complies with-absolutely nothing. refuses to take medications says their for weak ppl nothing wrong with her.
they have no respect i return from funeral, difficult child's pressing to "do something" a movie, go out etc. i said no way we had a long two days than mouths off and i have easy child doing same. my feelings are non existant in their minds