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FURIOUS about this...now, what to do about it?
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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 7283" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Eww, Gawd, who the heck could blame you for wanting to do something about this. </p><p>I don't know. I too believe it could backfire. That son has to make this decision on his own. </p><p></p><p>However...I will tell you that a few weeks ago when I began to suspect that my young difficult child might by using again, I didn't even, not EVEN hesitate to call his po and tell her about it! BEFORE he's 18. I want him to feel the consequences. He's been tested twice now recently. I am waiting for the results tomorrow on young difficult child. </p><p></p><p>But anyway, I feel for you. </p><p>I met my alcoholic bio dad at 17 years of age. It caused me nothing but emotional torment. I do not trust him. He is a completely selfish self consumed man. He even thought the reason my mother didn't remarry and kept his last name was cause she "couldn't get over him", how delisional. She didn't want to remarry the SAME again, what a creep. </p><p>Anyway...</p><p></p><p>I am SO sorry that your son is being put through this before the time was right. I'm sorry that his bio dad is still not worth having "father" him. </p><p>It is a conclusion your son will eventually see through I suspect. I know it tore my mom up at first when I met mine and even threatend to go live with him then (in retalitation for not getting my way about something, don't even have a clue what that was). I really hurt her with that. So much so that she has still brought it up recently to me when she was telling me about a new friend of hers who's struggling with a relationship with her daughters in between her ex and herself. </p><p></p><p>Oh goodness, all I can say is, I really, REALLY think he'll figure out what a toxic person his bio dad is, that person is NOT his father. It's not where his heart is safe, you and your husband know this is true in YOUR hearts. Maybe try and hold on to that. Meanwhile, it may have to play itself out. </p><p></p><p>caring thoughts to your family. </p><p>lovemysons</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 7283, member: 3305"] Eww, Gawd, who the heck could blame you for wanting to do something about this. I don't know. I too believe it could backfire. That son has to make this decision on his own. However...I will tell you that a few weeks ago when I began to suspect that my young difficult child might by using again, I didn't even, not EVEN hesitate to call his po and tell her about it! BEFORE he's 18. I want him to feel the consequences. He's been tested twice now recently. I am waiting for the results tomorrow on young difficult child. But anyway, I feel for you. I met my alcoholic bio dad at 17 years of age. It caused me nothing but emotional torment. I do not trust him. He is a completely selfish self consumed man. He even thought the reason my mother didn't remarry and kept his last name was cause she "couldn't get over him", how delisional. She didn't want to remarry the SAME again, what a creep. Anyway... I am SO sorry that your son is being put through this before the time was right. I'm sorry that his bio dad is still not worth having "father" him. It is a conclusion your son will eventually see through I suspect. I know it tore my mom up at first when I met mine and even threatend to go live with him then (in retalitation for not getting my way about something, don't even have a clue what that was). I really hurt her with that. So much so that she has still brought it up recently to me when she was telling me about a new friend of hers who's struggling with a relationship with her daughters in between her ex and herself. Oh goodness, all I can say is, I really, REALLY think he'll figure out what a toxic person his bio dad is, that person is NOT his father. It's not where his heart is safe, you and your husband know this is true in YOUR hearts. Maybe try and hold on to that. Meanwhile, it may have to play itself out. caring thoughts to your family. lovemysons [/QUOTE]
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