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FURIOUS about this...now, what to do about it?
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<blockquote data-quote="CAmom" data-source="post: 7285" data-attributes="member: 1835"><p>lovemysons, I'm afraid my son, like you, will be very sorry (and actually is at some times) that his birthfather and family forced themselves into his life. He has told me on several occasions that he wished we had never told him he was adopted. However, because we were involved in an open adoption (something we deeply regret now...), and his birthfamily live in our city, that wasn't an option. However, this is something he has to deal with, and all we can do is try to ease his way. I can't tell you how many times over the past year my fiesty guy has had tears running down his face because of something his birthfather has or hasn't done which reminds our son that, although this man is fathering four small children, he abandoned our son at birth. And, I have no doubt that my son was smoking pot at least in part to medicate the pain that this has caused him. Sad, because never in his life was adoption a source of pain to him. </p><p></p><p>But, as far as the marijuana issue, I have to agree with everyone that there probably isn't much we can do but hope and pray that, when our son finishes his court-ordered stay at the group home, what he has learned about life in general and illegal activities will stay with him and guide his choices in a better direction. Frankly, although I have no doubt that my son will never get involved with a crime again, I have serious doubts about whether he will actually give up marijuana (understanding that this is also against the law...). </p><p></p><p>DammitJanet, they actually do live near a school, but they aren't dealing drugs that I know of. From what I understand, his birthfather smokes pot and has a beer or two with our son as some sort of sick way of "bonding." As I said, he has in no way connected with our son on any type of parent/child level--maybe that's not possible at this point, but his failure to at least try to relate in at least an adult/child level is inexcusible.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="CAmom, post: 7285, member: 1835"] lovemysons, I'm afraid my son, like you, will be very sorry (and actually is at some times) that his birthfather and family forced themselves into his life. He has told me on several occasions that he wished we had never told him he was adopted. However, because we were involved in an open adoption (something we deeply regret now...), and his birthfamily live in our city, that wasn't an option. However, this is something he has to deal with, and all we can do is try to ease his way. I can't tell you how many times over the past year my fiesty guy has had tears running down his face because of something his birthfather has or hasn't done which reminds our son that, although this man is fathering four small children, he abandoned our son at birth. And, I have no doubt that my son was smoking pot at least in part to medicate the pain that this has caused him. Sad, because never in his life was adoption a source of pain to him. But, as far as the marijuana issue, I have to agree with everyone that there probably isn't much we can do but hope and pray that, when our son finishes his court-ordered stay at the group home, what he has learned about life in general and illegal activities will stay with him and guide his choices in a better direction. Frankly, although I have no doubt that my son will never get involved with a crime again, I have serious doubts about whether he will actually give up marijuana (understanding that this is also against the law...). DammitJanet, they actually do live near a school, but they aren't dealing drugs that I know of. From what I understand, his birthfather smokes pot and has a beer or two with our son as some sort of sick way of "bonding." As I said, he has in no way connected with our son on any type of parent/child level--maybe that's not possible at this point, but his failure to at least try to relate in at least an adult/child level is inexcusible. [/QUOTE]
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