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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 152850" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Your therapist said one hour a week will not help. Did he or she give an alternative? When my difficult child started therapy we were told that "I can only give one hour per week. If you find you need more help then that, you may want to check out the child psychiatric hospital for a variety of levels - partial or full hospitalization." My difficult child was just starting to be diagnosed. For us, this first visit was a very large plea for immediate help. On the way out of that office, difficult child broke down saying he could not handle this anymore (his body was telling him to hurt himself) and could we please go to this other place for more help? We did go and the assessment indicated inpatient care to start medications.</p><p> </p><p>This was a good way for us to STOP and start over. difficult child learned a lot of coping skills in a safe environment and found comfort in the structure of the facility. After two weeks, he was ready to face the real world armed with new skills.</p><p> </p><p>My difficult child has been diagnose with anxiety and we are trying to figure out what else may be going on. I think your child is going through a lot different issues as my son so this may not be the answer for you but what do you do when a professional states they can not help but do not have a referral to what will help? Maybe in light of the upcoming test, he or she chooses to gather more info before referring you on?</p><p> </p><p>Stay strong - I have a hard time walking away from an angry, controlling difficult child because I think "I am the parent. I have to end this NOW! I need to show that I am in control." I am slowly (very slowly) realizing that in that moment, there is no control (even for difficult child) and no one will be able to get control through anger - difficult child will not calm down as long as I am adding fuel to the fire. I have just recently figured out that my difficult child needs more time than most kids to process what has just happened and until he can think it through, he will hold his ground to this moment's thought. So, I make sure he is safe and wait until we both cool off to ask him what just happened and how can he avoid overheating?</p><p> </p><p>Keep us informed as to May 23rd test and anything else you learn. I just got my copy of The Explosive Child from the library (needed to be ordered from a sister library) so will read it as soon as I am done with "The Manipulative Child" which seems to be fitting difficult child and myself - next chapter promises to help me learn how to deal with the manipulation and stop my part in it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 152850, member: 5096"] Your therapist said one hour a week will not help. Did he or she give an alternative? When my difficult child started therapy we were told that "I can only give one hour per week. If you find you need more help then that, you may want to check out the child psychiatric hospital for a variety of levels - partial or full hospitalization." My difficult child was just starting to be diagnosed. For us, this first visit was a very large plea for immediate help. On the way out of that office, difficult child broke down saying he could not handle this anymore (his body was telling him to hurt himself) and could we please go to this other place for more help? We did go and the assessment indicated inpatient care to start medications. This was a good way for us to STOP and start over. difficult child learned a lot of coping skills in a safe environment and found comfort in the structure of the facility. After two weeks, he was ready to face the real world armed with new skills. My difficult child has been diagnose with anxiety and we are trying to figure out what else may be going on. I think your child is going through a lot different issues as my son so this may not be the answer for you but what do you do when a professional states they can not help but do not have a referral to what will help? Maybe in light of the upcoming test, he or she chooses to gather more info before referring you on? Stay strong - I have a hard time walking away from an angry, controlling difficult child because I think "I am the parent. I have to end this NOW! I need to show that I am in control." I am slowly (very slowly) realizing that in that moment, there is no control (even for difficult child) and no one will be able to get control through anger - difficult child will not calm down as long as I am adding fuel to the fire. I have just recently figured out that my difficult child needs more time than most kids to process what has just happened and until he can think it through, he will hold his ground to this moment's thought. So, I make sure he is safe and wait until we both cool off to ask him what just happened and how can he avoid overheating? Keep us informed as to May 23rd test and anything else you learn. I just got my copy of The Explosive Child from the library (needed to be ordered from a sister library) so will read it as soon as I am done with "The Manipulative Child" which seems to be fitting difficult child and myself - next chapter promises to help me learn how to deal with the manipulation and stop my part in it. [/QUOTE]
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