Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
Gambled & hope I didn't flunk detachment 101. X'ing fingers...
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 496815"><p>Haven't seen grades nor confirmed enrollment. Haven't pushed to see either though he verbally assured me he was enrolled full time last semester. Proof of enrollment is definitely a condition of releasing CD money or 529 funds. Grades would be nice too and definitely a condition if we pay tuition. I don't want to push too hard until I know where we stand. As far as I can tell, this is a battle (in his eyes) for control of his life and I am trying to make it clear that my goal is for him to be able to control his life post grad. I am treading carefully as to not trigger the control button which led him to flee in August. Really, I am winging it with the end goal of him staying in school and not letting the partying go way overboard. I totally acknowledge that his use is beyond "normal" but I hope it hasn't gotten past the point of redemption. I don't know </p><p>I know I am grasping at straws but I guess this is a last ditch effort to make him understand that WE are not the problem. And I don't want to alienate him and I fear we are close to that and will do it if we push too hard. And I know placating is handing him control so I am trying to draw clear lines. I feel like so long as he wants to be in college, he has a chance and I want to support that.</p><p>Can you tell I am conflicted?? Lol</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 496815"] Haven't seen grades nor confirmed enrollment. Haven't pushed to see either though he verbally assured me he was enrolled full time last semester. Proof of enrollment is definitely a condition of releasing CD money or 529 funds. Grades would be nice too and definitely a condition if we pay tuition. I don't want to push too hard until I know where we stand. As far as I can tell, this is a battle (in his eyes) for control of his life and I am trying to make it clear that my goal is for him to be able to control his life post grad. I am treading carefully as to not trigger the control button which led him to flee in August. Really, I am winging it with the end goal of him staying in school and not letting the partying go way overboard. I totally acknowledge that his use is beyond "normal" but I hope it hasn't gotten past the point of redemption. I don't know I know I am grasping at straws but I guess this is a last ditch effort to make him understand that WE are not the problem. And I don't want to alienate him and I fear we are close to that and will do it if we push too hard. And I know placating is handing him control so I am trying to draw clear lines. I feel like so long as he wants to be in college, he has a chance and I want to support that. Can you tell I am conflicted?? Lol [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
Gambled & hope I didn't flunk detachment 101. X'ing fingers...
Top