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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 111837" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Actually, his letter is pretty good considering his age. It may not be totally realistic, but it does take responsibility and tries to explain why he is doing what he is doing. A parent may not like the reasoning, but it is just about what most 17 YOs feel.</p><p></p><p>He reminds me a lot of my daughter at that age, sans drugs. She hated school; dropped out, moved out and lived with "friends" who did do drugs. She would never consider them addicts (they ONLY did pot and drank). She did come home and I had specific rules in place and was told flat out you don't follow them, I'll show you the door the next time. She did pretty good with the rules for about 5-6 months and then decided she didn't like them since she was now 18 and an "adult!"</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry, I don't remember but do you feel your son is addicted or truly just using recreationally? The partying on NYE sounds pretty typical for kids, so that wouldn't overly concern me. However, if you believe he is truly addicted, I would make rehab a requirement to coming home. Then there would curfews, a job or at least actively looking, no staying home and just doing nothing. Hope you get things worked out. Having him come home with no plan would, in my opinion, lead to a total disaster.</p><p></p><p>I do love the idea that he doesn't want to the PO/juvie thing. Um, he thinks it will just magically disappear because he doesn't want to deal with it? You might try reminding him that if you do the crime, you do the time. He wants out, he makes the call, not you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 111837, member: 3626"] Actually, his letter is pretty good considering his age. It may not be totally realistic, but it does take responsibility and tries to explain why he is doing what he is doing. A parent may not like the reasoning, but it is just about what most 17 YOs feel. He reminds me a lot of my daughter at that age, sans drugs. She hated school; dropped out, moved out and lived with "friends" who did do drugs. She would never consider them addicts (they ONLY did pot and drank). She did come home and I had specific rules in place and was told flat out you don't follow them, I'll show you the door the next time. She did pretty good with the rules for about 5-6 months and then decided she didn't like them since she was now 18 and an "adult!" I'm sorry, I don't remember but do you feel your son is addicted or truly just using recreationally? The partying on NYE sounds pretty typical for kids, so that wouldn't overly concern me. However, if you believe he is truly addicted, I would make rehab a requirement to coming home. Then there would curfews, a job or at least actively looking, no staying home and just doing nothing. Hope you get things worked out. Having him come home with no plan would, in my opinion, lead to a total disaster. I do love the idea that he doesn't want to the PO/juvie thing. Um, he thinks it will just magically disappear because he doesn't want to deal with it? You might try reminding him that if you do the crime, you do the time. He wants out, he makes the call, not you. [/QUOTE]
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