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<blockquote data-quote="Ephchap" data-source="post: 112299" data-attributes="member: 27"><p>Nola,</p><p></p><p>I also thought I responded to this. Hmmm. DDD and I must have been swallowed up in cyberspace. lol.</p><p></p><p>I think that you do have a realistic approach to him coming home. I would definitely make a contract/agreement of sorts, that had to be agreed to by you and husband and your son. I would require that he adhere to rules with regards to school and curfew, but would also require him to seek drug treatment (there are some very good outpatient programs offered by United Way or university hospitals that group teens together - like an AA type group - but dealing with their own age and drugs) and I'd also require drug testing on demand.</p><p></p><p>That being said, I'm not sure what consequences he's been given either, by his PO. I would definitely NOT be making a call to try to get him out of it in any way. I'd want him to fulfill whatever community service or whatever they gave him.</p><p></p><p>It's so hard to know when to push and when to back off. I know with our son, he was just turning 17 and was in a lot of trouble with drugs and eventually broke the law because of the drugs. He ended up charged with a felony and misdemeanors as an adult. I thought if we could take that year to get him into treatment (which we did - dual-diagnostic, secure (locked) Residential Treatment Center (RTC)), he'd come out okay. Unfortunately, he still has those charges on his adult record, but at least the treatment plan worked. The felony will stay with him, but at least he realized that the drugs didn't need to.</p><p></p><p>I'd definitely work out a plan with him for him to come home. He's 17, and if the adult age in your state is 18, he still has time to turn things around. It sounds like he wants to, so I'd at least give him the chance - but with rules in place.</p><p></p><p>Sending many hugs. I know how hard this all is.</p><p>Deb</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ephchap, post: 112299, member: 27"] Nola, I also thought I responded to this. Hmmm. DDD and I must have been swallowed up in cyberspace. lol. I think that you do have a realistic approach to him coming home. I would definitely make a contract/agreement of sorts, that had to be agreed to by you and husband and your son. I would require that he adhere to rules with regards to school and curfew, but would also require him to seek drug treatment (there are some very good outpatient programs offered by United Way or university hospitals that group teens together - like an AA type group - but dealing with their own age and drugs) and I'd also require drug testing on demand. That being said, I'm not sure what consequences he's been given either, by his PO. I would definitely NOT be making a call to try to get him out of it in any way. I'd want him to fulfill whatever community service or whatever they gave him. It's so hard to know when to push and when to back off. I know with our son, he was just turning 17 and was in a lot of trouble with drugs and eventually broke the law because of the drugs. He ended up charged with a felony and misdemeanors as an adult. I thought if we could take that year to get him into treatment (which we did - dual-diagnostic, secure (locked) Residential Treatment Center (RTC)), he'd come out okay. Unfortunately, he still has those charges on his adult record, but at least the treatment plan worked. The felony will stay with him, but at least he realized that the drugs didn't need to. I'd definitely work out a plan with him for him to come home. He's 17, and if the adult age in your state is 18, he still has time to turn things around. It sounds like he wants to, so I'd at least give him the chance - but with rules in place. Sending many hugs. I know how hard this all is. Deb [/QUOTE]
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