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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 114073" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so sorry. This is so very hard for you and husband. I hope your therapist will work with both of you to come to a happy medium about dealing with him.</p><p></p><p>According to his letter he is refusing to follow any rules you set. If he comes home you may have luck talking to him about what HE feels are realistic and liveable house rules. I would make no drugs a deal breaker though.</p><p></p><p>Does he know what will make him happy? Is it a particular career, or just hanging out? What is he doing for $$$ at this time? That may have a BIG BIG BIG impact on IF he can come home successfully. Some jobs you get into and have a tough time getting out of. I am speaking of illegal jobs. I hope he is not in this situation, but it sounds like he has been out of legitimate work for a long time. You can check his credit and social security while he is still a minor, if you want to know if he has been working legit jobs.</p><p></p><p>I think any set of rules will tank if you and husband are not in complete agreement about how to handle them and him. It also may damage your marriage. My own parents had a really hard time after dealing with my gfgbro's teen years. </p><p></p><p>Sending hugs, wish I had better/happier advice.</p><p></p><p>Susie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 114073, member: 1233"] I am so sorry. This is so very hard for you and husband. I hope your therapist will work with both of you to come to a happy medium about dealing with him. According to his letter he is refusing to follow any rules you set. If he comes home you may have luck talking to him about what HE feels are realistic and liveable house rules. I would make no drugs a deal breaker though. Does he know what will make him happy? Is it a particular career, or just hanging out? What is he doing for $$$ at this time? That may have a BIG BIG BIG impact on IF he can come home successfully. Some jobs you get into and have a tough time getting out of. I am speaking of illegal jobs. I hope he is not in this situation, but it sounds like he has been out of legitimate work for a long time. You can check his credit and social security while he is still a minor, if you want to know if he has been working legit jobs. I think any set of rules will tank if you and husband are not in complete agreement about how to handle them and him. It also may damage your marriage. My own parents had a really hard time after dealing with my gfgbro's teen years. Sending hugs, wish I had better/happier advice. Susie [/QUOTE]
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