I know the concept of "gaslighting" has come up here before, and I just came across this article that I found to be a great explanation of it. There's also a link at the end to another article about emotional abuse, which many of us can also relate to, I think. So many of us have been there with our Difficult Adult Children. http://lonerwolf.com/gaslighting/ P.S. there's an annoying pop-up at first, but just click the x to get out of it and it doesn't come back.