Yup, those were difficult child's exact words today.
We spent most of the weekend together shopping. We found some great bargains at Ross and Penny's. This is definitely the time to buy boots. We were able to get her five dresses, two tops, and two pairs of shoes for under the amount that I had planned to spend.
She was very nice and grateful for what I bought her. We talked a lot about her job. She will basically be in charge of the salon as the owners are not there on a regular basis. She will be opening and closing the salon and running the front desk. It will be full-time starting next week.
difficult child is so proud of herself. She has stopped talking about moving back in here and mentioned looking for a place to live. She even mentioned that she and her boyfriend have discussed getting an apartment together after he finds another job. He was recently laid off. I'll believe that one when I see it. They can't go two weeks without breaking up and then getting back together
I was pleased to hear that the salon is mostly older stylists with families so there is not any socializing after work. There is one stylist her age that difficult child likes but difficult child is mindful that the owner told her that she needed to keep a friendly distance. difficult child also cannot smoke at all while she is at salon. That will be a challenge for her. She even talked about getting a patch.
She has to eat her lunch at the front desk since it can't be left unattended. We bought her a cute lunch sack today and she bought things to take for lunch. It will be better for her budget if she can't go out for lunch each day. We talked about her paycheck and she said that she was thinking of giving us half each time so we can save it for her. I'm not sure how I feel about that. She doesn't handle money well but we want her to learn to be independent and this would be tying her to us again.
We did talk about a plan for her to gradually take on her own expenses. Her first paycheck will be small since it will be for only one week and she only worked part-time this week. I told her that she needs to let us know how much it is and we can plan on what she will pay for next week. I know that I want her to start buying her own cigarettes starting with her first paycheck. I hate buying those things for her! After that, she can take over gas and groceries and finally rent when the halfway house program ends in a month and a half.
So, all in all, it sounds like things are going well. I pray it stays that way.
~Kathy
We spent most of the weekend together shopping. We found some great bargains at Ross and Penny's. This is definitely the time to buy boots. We were able to get her five dresses, two tops, and two pairs of shoes for under the amount that I had planned to spend.
She was very nice and grateful for what I bought her. We talked a lot about her job. She will basically be in charge of the salon as the owners are not there on a regular basis. She will be opening and closing the salon and running the front desk. It will be full-time starting next week.
difficult child is so proud of herself. She has stopped talking about moving back in here and mentioned looking for a place to live. She even mentioned that she and her boyfriend have discussed getting an apartment together after he finds another job. He was recently laid off. I'll believe that one when I see it. They can't go two weeks without breaking up and then getting back together
I was pleased to hear that the salon is mostly older stylists with families so there is not any socializing after work. There is one stylist her age that difficult child likes but difficult child is mindful that the owner told her that she needed to keep a friendly distance. difficult child also cannot smoke at all while she is at salon. That will be a challenge for her. She even talked about getting a patch.
She has to eat her lunch at the front desk since it can't be left unattended. We bought her a cute lunch sack today and she bought things to take for lunch. It will be better for her budget if she can't go out for lunch each day. We talked about her paycheck and she said that she was thinking of giving us half each time so we can save it for her. I'm not sure how I feel about that. She doesn't handle money well but we want her to learn to be independent and this would be tying her to us again.
We did talk about a plan for her to gradually take on her own expenses. Her first paycheck will be small since it will be for only one week and she only worked part-time this week. I told her that she needs to let us know how much it is and we can plan on what she will pay for next week. I know that I want her to start buying her own cigarettes starting with her first paycheck. I hate buying those things for her! After that, she can take over gas and groceries and finally rent when the halfway house program ends in a month and a half.
So, all in all, it sounds like things are going well. I pray it stays that way.
~Kathy
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