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Gee, when you allow unlimited access to an obsession
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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 148280" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>We have allowed our kids to have access to their obsessions, but not unlimited access. For us, by allowing some controlled access, I feel we've been able to cope better (and so have they).</p><p></p><p>We have the Star Wars obsession too, with difficult child 1 - his friends bought him a ticket to the premiere of the last movie as a 21st present, and he went - in costume - then told us how he enjoyed discussing the fine details of Star Wars trivia with other fans before the show - and his knowledge of that trivia is extreme. But he also has other activities, other ways in which he functions. He has complied with our rules, he has done further study, got himself a couple of jobs (currently working) - so in this case, what we have chosen to do seems to be right, for us.</p><p></p><p>Clearly it's not right for you. But from what you say - I don't know what would be. </p><p></p><p>If your parents try to dump him back on you, can you pick up the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) stuff again from that point? What would g'pa do then? Can you work out a written contract with them, so if they do try to hand him back they then have to accept the inevitability of Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and support the application?</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 148280, member: 1991"] We have allowed our kids to have access to their obsessions, but not unlimited access. For us, by allowing some controlled access, I feel we've been able to cope better (and so have they). We have the Star Wars obsession too, with difficult child 1 - his friends bought him a ticket to the premiere of the last movie as a 21st present, and he went - in costume - then told us how he enjoyed discussing the fine details of Star Wars trivia with other fans before the show - and his knowledge of that trivia is extreme. But he also has other activities, other ways in which he functions. He has complied with our rules, he has done further study, got himself a couple of jobs (currently working) - so in this case, what we have chosen to do seems to be right, for us. Clearly it's not right for you. But from what you say - I don't know what would be. If your parents try to dump him back on you, can you pick up the Residential Treatment Center (RTC) stuff again from that point? What would g'pa do then? Can you work out a written contract with them, so if they do try to hand him back they then have to accept the inevitability of Residential Treatment Center (RTC) and support the application? Marg [/QUOTE]
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