klmno
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I apologize for not being on much and responding very much lately- I'm still thinking of a lot of people- Terry, Step, DF, Nancy, Susie, Star- just name a few of my many friends.
I'll give a general update- I've been feeling like I must be wearing a sign that says "everyone's doormat" (not to people here but ITRW. Besides the job issue, difficult child hasn't contacted me in at least 2 weeks even though he can call now, supposedly. At first I just thought this was my "punishment" for not buying into his threat to get out of my life if he couldn't come back to live with me on his terms but now I'm not so sure. I'm very worried about him, his future, and I miss him and grieve so much over it all sometimes...sigh...
Then I got an email from my mom saying she feels dizzy a lot. Well- you'd have to know her I guess. I responded the next day saying I hoped she felt better. She emailed back and said she didn't and she might need to ask for my help and to come down there to her. I responded that she should probably find someone there to help her because I am in no position to financially and can't take time off from this job to do that.
I submitted a letter to upper management giving my response to boss's email, re-capping my understanding of our 1 1/2 hr long conversation where he apologized for intentionally starting the whole situation then contacting upper management to try to get me fired when I got mad about it. And I included a statement about being concerned about any management that would fire a person upon hearing a list of complaints that include 4 items without even looking into it or hearing the other person's side of the story. Today, 3 days after submitting it, I rec'd an email response from the acctg person (co owner's daughter) saying that she had printed it out and would include a copy in my personnel file. Also, she said the owner was on vacation this week but would talk with both boss and me when he returned next week. She said that hopefully, that would work thru things and get us all past this.
I responded, thanking her and apologized for all the time and inconvenience this has cost everyone. She responded that she was glad I had brought it to everyone's attnetion. I took that opportunity to email back and say that honestly, I've heard a lot of complaints about boss and they are all similar but people are afraid to say anything because most peopl can spot that side of vindictiveness in him.
We'll see what happens next week, I guess but at least it appears right now that someone read my letter and felt the need to address more than just automatically firing me on boss's word. In the meatime, the employee who boss had tried to get me to back me up on when he misrepresented her attitude and responses on the phone one day emailed with questions pertaining to work. We ended up chatting a little thru email then I threw out that maybe we could chat outside of work sometime. We talked on the phone about an hour last night- it was me venting and her understanding. Today we met after work and had a couple of beers and ate a little and I listened to her vent about her husband and job issues, etc. It was so nice- it seems like forever that I've had to hold everything in ITRW and deal with everything by myself without anyone ITRW understanding. This board has been all I had fior support for a very long time and I really do appreciate it. It sure was nice though to talk with someone else who knows boss though and who knows that he has a screw loose!!
I'll give a general update- I've been feeling like I must be wearing a sign that says "everyone's doormat" (not to people here but ITRW. Besides the job issue, difficult child hasn't contacted me in at least 2 weeks even though he can call now, supposedly. At first I just thought this was my "punishment" for not buying into his threat to get out of my life if he couldn't come back to live with me on his terms but now I'm not so sure. I'm very worried about him, his future, and I miss him and grieve so much over it all sometimes...sigh...
Then I got an email from my mom saying she feels dizzy a lot. Well- you'd have to know her I guess. I responded the next day saying I hoped she felt better. She emailed back and said she didn't and she might need to ask for my help and to come down there to her. I responded that she should probably find someone there to help her because I am in no position to financially and can't take time off from this job to do that.
I submitted a letter to upper management giving my response to boss's email, re-capping my understanding of our 1 1/2 hr long conversation where he apologized for intentionally starting the whole situation then contacting upper management to try to get me fired when I got mad about it. And I included a statement about being concerned about any management that would fire a person upon hearing a list of complaints that include 4 items without even looking into it or hearing the other person's side of the story. Today, 3 days after submitting it, I rec'd an email response from the acctg person (co owner's daughter) saying that she had printed it out and would include a copy in my personnel file. Also, she said the owner was on vacation this week but would talk with both boss and me when he returned next week. She said that hopefully, that would work thru things and get us all past this.
I responded, thanking her and apologized for all the time and inconvenience this has cost everyone. She responded that she was glad I had brought it to everyone's attnetion. I took that opportunity to email back and say that honestly, I've heard a lot of complaints about boss and they are all similar but people are afraid to say anything because most peopl can spot that side of vindictiveness in him.
We'll see what happens next week, I guess but at least it appears right now that someone read my letter and felt the need to address more than just automatically firing me on boss's word. In the meatime, the employee who boss had tried to get me to back me up on when he misrepresented her attitude and responses on the phone one day emailed with questions pertaining to work. We ended up chatting a little thru email then I threw out that maybe we could chat outside of work sometime. We talked on the phone about an hour last night- it was me venting and her understanding. Today we met after work and had a couple of beers and ate a little and I listened to her vent about her husband and job issues, etc. It was so nice- it seems like forever that I've had to hold everything in ITRW and deal with everything by myself without anyone ITRW understanding. This board has been all I had fior support for a very long time and I really do appreciate it. It sure was nice though to talk with someone else who knows boss though and who knows that he has a screw loose!!
