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<blockquote data-quote="goldenguru" data-source="post: 78920" data-attributes="member: 1545"><p>Oh dear stands!</p><p></p><p><em>Are you really hearing what these ladies are telling you? Do you hear the wisdom of their experiences?</em></p><p></p><p>I assume you will say YES!!</p><p></p><p>So my question to you is this: Since you seem to recognize </p><p>1) that what you are doing is NOT helping your son, </p><p>2) that it is making you crazy, </p><p>3) that it is destroying the peaceful atmosphere in your home, </p><p>4) that it is driving a wedge between your self and your husband </p><p></p><p>... what is keeping you from making some small changes? </p><p></p><p>Somewhere there is a disconnect. Somewhere between recognizing the insanity your sons choices are inflicting on the family and your willingness to make some changes ... there is a serious disconnect.</p><p></p><p>You SERIOUSLY need to figure it out.</p><p></p><p>Personally, I think that you have become soooo enmeshed in your sons life/choices that you are afraid to let him suffer any consequences because then you will suffer the consequences. In your unhealthy relationship with this man, his pain is way too much your pain too. You are going to need a really good therapist help you untie yourself from this child. Run - don't walk - to a good family therapist.</p><p></p><p>There is nothing else we can offer you. YOU must ... MUST .... <strong>MUST</strong> make some different choices with this man or you will be posting the same drama ten years from now.</p><p></p><p>With all due respect ....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="goldenguru, post: 78920, member: 1545"] Oh dear stands! [i]Are you really hearing what these ladies are telling you? Do you hear the wisdom of their experiences?[/i] I assume you will say YES!! So my question to you is this: Since you seem to recognize 1) that what you are doing is NOT helping your son, 2) that it is making you crazy, 3) that it is destroying the peaceful atmosphere in your home, 4) that it is driving a wedge between your self and your husband ... what is keeping you from making some small changes? Somewhere there is a disconnect. Somewhere between recognizing the insanity your sons choices are inflicting on the family and your willingness to make some changes ... there is a serious disconnect. You SERIOUSLY need to figure it out. Personally, I think that you have become soooo enmeshed in your sons life/choices that you are afraid to let him suffer any consequences because then you will suffer the consequences. In your unhealthy relationship with this man, his pain is way too much your pain too. You are going to need a really good therapist help you untie yourself from this child. Run - don't walk - to a good family therapist. There is nothing else we can offer you. YOU must ... MUST .... [b]MUST[/b] make some different choices with this man or you will be posting the same drama ten years from now. With all due respect .... [/QUOTE]
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