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<blockquote data-quote="lovemysons" data-source="post: 205188" data-attributes="member: 3305"><p>Hi Sue, I'm not completely up to speed on your situation cause I haven't kept up with the board except every 3 or 4 months, sorry. But, I was thinking that if you could possibly go to a 12 step meeting, even Al Anon, it may help. The reason I say this is because one of the things they taught me was to speak more along the lines of "maybe, possibly, could be, might be" etc. Not in as much of a controlling authority on everything. I think the idea is..." There is a G-d and I am not it"...that there is help, hope, solution beyond me and my best thinking and that if I "get out of the way" other solutions have a opportunity to take hold. </p><p></p><p>The other thing I was thinking of is to remind your son that, generally speaking, the only people who consider suicide are those with mental illness and that there is remedy for that...with medications and counceling. My young difficult child, just released from the Army, has spoken of "if that happens I would just kill myself". So, I reminded him of the mental illness aspect...especially in hopes that he might seek out medical help. </p><p></p><p>I understand restless nights of worry and even despair. I don't go through those nights these days...well, I go through sleepless nights but thats cause of my own mania not completely under control at the moment. But I don't despair like I used to...mostly because of what I learned in Al Anon. There is hope, there are solutions. "Surrender to win" is one lil cliche that I'm thinking of regarding your situation. Sometimes we project bad outcomes when really the "projector" might not be working well. What we imagine may not really be the outcome, and it's usually not a good idea to project the negative. We may subconsciously be telling our kids this is what we expect to happen, which of course, is Not what we want to do At All. </p><p></p><p>Anyway I'm just thinking outloud don't know if what I said applies...</p><p>but am thinking of you nonetheless. </p><p></p><p>with care, </p><p>Tammy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="lovemysons, post: 205188, member: 3305"] Hi Sue, I'm not completely up to speed on your situation cause I haven't kept up with the board except every 3 or 4 months, sorry. But, I was thinking that if you could possibly go to a 12 step meeting, even Al Anon, it may help. The reason I say this is because one of the things they taught me was to speak more along the lines of "maybe, possibly, could be, might be" etc. Not in as much of a controlling authority on everything. I think the idea is..." There is a G-d and I am not it"...that there is help, hope, solution beyond me and my best thinking and that if I "get out of the way" other solutions have a opportunity to take hold. The other thing I was thinking of is to remind your son that, generally speaking, the only people who consider suicide are those with mental illness and that there is remedy for that...with medications and counceling. My young difficult child, just released from the Army, has spoken of "if that happens I would just kill myself". So, I reminded him of the mental illness aspect...especially in hopes that he might seek out medical help. I understand restless nights of worry and even despair. I don't go through those nights these days...well, I go through sleepless nights but thats cause of my own mania not completely under control at the moment. But I don't despair like I used to...mostly because of what I learned in Al Anon. There is hope, there are solutions. "Surrender to win" is one lil cliche that I'm thinking of regarding your situation. Sometimes we project bad outcomes when really the "projector" might not be working well. What we imagine may not really be the outcome, and it's usually not a good idea to project the negative. We may subconsciously be telling our kids this is what we expect to happen, which of course, is Not what we want to do At All. Anyway I'm just thinking outloud don't know if what I said applies... but am thinking of you nonetheless. with care, Tammy [/QUOTE]
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