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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 205617" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>I don't know if NC would still exist after a week of Cory, Dude, and thank you all in the same general geography!!!! <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/rofl.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":rofl:" title="rofl :rofl:" data-shortname=":rofl:" /> No telling *what* those boys could come up with together.... but probably they'd be at each others throats in about a half a heartbeat because we all know that each one of them is *the* one who knows it all and is always right. Would be quite a scene I think, LOL. Oh, and Janet? Tyler is just fine, don't you know, and won't be applying for SSI because when the times comes (isn't it here already???) he'll know just exactly how to get a job, apartment, and life. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/1010hammer.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hammer:" title="hammer :hammer:" data-shortname=":hammer:" /></p><p> </p><p>Cindy, I'm a big fan of CBT after my own meltdown several years ago. Probably 95% of the time it works really well for me - it's those dark wee hours of the morning when I have a hard time maintaining the discipiline that CBT really calls for. I really try to stay in the present but we're in the cycle right now where thank you is in a situation that just seems stalemated and when I can't *fix* a problem, I obsess. We've been through this cycle many times before and will be again, I'm sure. I'm just getting worse at surviving it intact I think.</p><p> </p><p>I think I either accomplished something today or opened one whopper of a hornet's nest. Spent literally 6 hours yesterday (no kidding) composing a letter outlining my concerns, where I think TLP has dropped the ball especially since they sabotaged my efforts when I tried to move him to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) in March, yada yada yada ... anyway, so I had to double check credentials on one of my cc: people and I just happened to find a "transition service coordinator" for thank you's grant. Being the bold woman I am, I just called him right up and left a message. I talked to him 3 times today, probably close to a total of 2 hours, and the last half hour he conferenced in a guy who is a contract something or other for DMH (which administers the grant). These guys were asking right-on questions, were hearing me, were blunt about reality (I can take blunt right now - prefer it), and were pretty ticked that a minor child is not being supervised. The contract guy just cracked me up - "Hmmm, thank you's been in 3 RTCs and 1 TLP, has spent 12 weeks of the last 8.5 years living at home? I guess he's pretty much proved he's not going to do anything he doesn't want to!" Uh, yeah. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> So I'm mailing 4-page letter to.... I think we're up to 8 people with- various agencies, LOL, and contract guy is calling head of TLP program and will be conferencing me in sometime in the next several days. Should be interesting. The biggest problem is thank you's refusal to accept "services" while at the same time refusing to do anything on his own. I keep humming that old Rush song..."If you chose not to decide, you still have made a choice". He doesn't get it.</p><p> </p><p>Bottom line, the goal is to keep him out of shelters and jail. Did you ever *ever* in your wildest dreams think these would be your ambitions for your kid? Way back when, when we were fretting over IEPs and meltdowns and therapy? Somehow, even my negative Nelly self thought that by the time our boys were at least *looking* like men, the ride would be smoother. I never never *never* imagined we'd be where we are now. Sigh... Ladies, it's been one heck of a long ride on this rollercoaster, but I have to tell you - I am so completely thankful that the company is so good.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 205617, member: 8"] I don't know if NC would still exist after a week of Cory, Dude, and thank you all in the same general geography!!!! :rofl: No telling *what* those boys could come up with together.... but probably they'd be at each others throats in about a half a heartbeat because we all know that each one of them is *the* one who knows it all and is always right. Would be quite a scene I think, LOL. Oh, and Janet? Tyler is just fine, don't you know, and won't be applying for SSI because when the times comes (isn't it here already???) he'll know just exactly how to get a job, apartment, and life. :hammer: Cindy, I'm a big fan of CBT after my own meltdown several years ago. Probably 95% of the time it works really well for me - it's those dark wee hours of the morning when I have a hard time maintaining the discipiline that CBT really calls for. I really try to stay in the present but we're in the cycle right now where thank you is in a situation that just seems stalemated and when I can't *fix* a problem, I obsess. We've been through this cycle many times before and will be again, I'm sure. I'm just getting worse at surviving it intact I think. I think I either accomplished something today or opened one whopper of a hornet's nest. Spent literally 6 hours yesterday (no kidding) composing a letter outlining my concerns, where I think TLP has dropped the ball especially since they sabotaged my efforts when I tried to move him to an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) in March, yada yada yada ... anyway, so I had to double check credentials on one of my cc: people and I just happened to find a "transition service coordinator" for thank you's grant. Being the bold woman I am, I just called him right up and left a message. I talked to him 3 times today, probably close to a total of 2 hours, and the last half hour he conferenced in a guy who is a contract something or other for DMH (which administers the grant). These guys were asking right-on questions, were hearing me, were blunt about reality (I can take blunt right now - prefer it), and were pretty ticked that a minor child is not being supervised. The contract guy just cracked me up - "Hmmm, thank you's been in 3 RTCs and 1 TLP, has spent 12 weeks of the last 8.5 years living at home? I guess he's pretty much proved he's not going to do anything he doesn't want to!" Uh, yeah. ;) So I'm mailing 4-page letter to.... I think we're up to 8 people with- various agencies, LOL, and contract guy is calling head of TLP program and will be conferencing me in sometime in the next several days. Should be interesting. The biggest problem is thank you's refusal to accept "services" while at the same time refusing to do anything on his own. I keep humming that old Rush song..."If you chose not to decide, you still have made a choice". He doesn't get it. Bottom line, the goal is to keep him out of shelters and jail. Did you ever *ever* in your wildest dreams think these would be your ambitions for your kid? Way back when, when we were fretting over IEPs and meltdowns and therapy? Somehow, even my negative Nelly self thought that by the time our boys were at least *looking* like men, the ride would be smoother. I never never *never* imagined we'd be where we are now. Sigh... Ladies, it's been one heck of a long ride on this rollercoaster, but I have to tell you - I am so completely thankful that the company is so good. [/QUOTE]
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