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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 621579" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Strength, I wanted you to know one of us had read your post.</p><p></p><p>Our difficult children do threaten suicide, Strength. When that is the threat we respond to, then that will be the threat used to keep us in line in future, the threat that will be used to keep us giving and giving in. </p><p></p><p>What is the positive thing your son must do before you will consider reinvesting in him?</p><p></p><p>Any communication should restate what it is HE needs to do.</p><p></p><p>Your son has the power here, Strength. He is blackmailing you into believing you hold all the power. Your request of him was clear and simple: stop using drugs/alcohol/spice whatever it is that is destroying you. I love you too much to help you destroy yourself, and I will never do it, again. It was my responsibility to stop you, to require that you undergo treatment, last time and the time before that. I am not going to change my mind. I want you strong. I want you independent. I want you to become the man I raised you to be. I am not giving you a penny to support a drug habit that is destroying you. I love you too much to watch you destroy yourself.</p><p></p><p>How could you do this to me, and to your father! </p><p></p><p>He is the one choosing not to buckle. He is blackmailing you with his own death.</p><p></p><p>He is blackmailing you.</p><p></p><p>What does your son need to do before you will help him?</p><p></p><p>Treatment?</p><p></p><p>Find work?</p><p></p><p>At the least, keep a civil tongue in his head?</p><p></p><p>None of us knows what the outcome will be, Strength. We hope, we believe, we try to do the right thing as we see it. What we have tried in the past has not worked. Our children have gone skidding down some rabbit hole we never even dreamed existed for our kids.</p><p></p><p>I don't know another way to help them but to stop helping them.</p><p></p><p>A drug addicted child is one of the worst things that can happen to a parent.</p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry this is happening to you, Strength.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 621579, member: 17461"] Strength, I wanted you to know one of us had read your post. Our difficult children do threaten suicide, Strength. When that is the threat we respond to, then that will be the threat used to keep us in line in future, the threat that will be used to keep us giving and giving in. What is the positive thing your son must do before you will consider reinvesting in him? Any communication should restate what it is HE needs to do. Your son has the power here, Strength. He is blackmailing you into believing you hold all the power. Your request of him was clear and simple: stop using drugs/alcohol/spice whatever it is that is destroying you. I love you too much to help you destroy yourself, and I will never do it, again. It was my responsibility to stop you, to require that you undergo treatment, last time and the time before that. I am not going to change my mind. I want you strong. I want you independent. I want you to become the man I raised you to be. I am not giving you a penny to support a drug habit that is destroying you. I love you too much to watch you destroy yourself. How could you do this to me, and to your father! He is the one choosing not to buckle. He is blackmailing you with his own death. He is blackmailing you. What does your son need to do before you will help him? Treatment? Find work? At the least, keep a civil tongue in his head? None of us knows what the outcome will be, Strength. We hope, we believe, we try to do the right thing as we see it. What we have tried in the past has not worked. Our children have gone skidding down some rabbit hole we never even dreamed existed for our kids. I don't know another way to help them but to stop helping them. A drug addicted child is one of the worst things that can happen to a parent. I'm so sorry this is happening to you, Strength. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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