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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 609059" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I never would have gone to the courthouse over a GFGGF. I didn't even know when Daughter's various thug boyfriends were in jail. She never told me and I'm glad. There is also no way I'd ever pay even a nickle's bail for somebody else's kid who got there by hitting MY kid. Why would you ever consider paying $250 to get her out? I'm glad it was more and you didn't do it! </p><p></p><p></p><p>This is just my opinion and I don't think everyone will agree with me, but I think you got way too involved in this. Once she was carted away in police car, that in my opinion should have been it. If son wanted to go, that would be his decision, but he'd go alone. As for the parents, they did not need any visitors. Again, just my opinion. They know what she is. As for your son, well, he is choosing to love her. And although she is obviously a chemical mess, I do think daily pot use rots the brain so that your son is not thinking logically either. You can't stop his misplaced guilt. He caused his own problem by standing by her side, choosing her and continuing with her. He is not making good choices himself and is not in a good place mentally, but you can't do anything about it.</p><p></p><p>I hope you can stand firm and continue to concentrate of your two girls, your husband, and yourself <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> Give yourself a lot of deserved and needed love and let Romeo deal with this himself. He will continue to pick losers if he doesn't start feeling better about himself and he probably won't start feeling better about himself until he feels like an adult who is truly independent.</p><p></p><p>You can not force your adult son into counseling even if he doesn't get to see this girl again and he may pine for her while she's gone. These two are beyond the ages where you can fix them or anyone can. The girl is not a "young" girl. She is a young woman who is making poor choices, whom her own parents know very well and can't fix. Her parents would have found out she's in jail without your stop at their house. Trust me, she will call them. You're lucky they were nice...lol. Some fed up parents may have said, "You woke me up for THAT? Let her stay in jail for now. I'm sleeping in." Yes, I'm serious. </p><p></p><p>Hugs and take care and I'm sorry for all the trouble you went through. Although I wouldn't have done it, it sounds exhausting.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 609059, member: 1550"] I never would have gone to the courthouse over a GFGGF. I didn't even know when Daughter's various thug boyfriends were in jail. She never told me and I'm glad. There is also no way I'd ever pay even a nickle's bail for somebody else's kid who got there by hitting MY kid. Why would you ever consider paying $250 to get her out? I'm glad it was more and you didn't do it! This is just my opinion and I don't think everyone will agree with me, but I think you got way too involved in this. Once she was carted away in police car, that in my opinion should have been it. If son wanted to go, that would be his decision, but he'd go alone. As for the parents, they did not need any visitors. Again, just my opinion. They know what she is. As for your son, well, he is choosing to love her. And although she is obviously a chemical mess, I do think daily pot use rots the brain so that your son is not thinking logically either. You can't stop his misplaced guilt. He caused his own problem by standing by her side, choosing her and continuing with her. He is not making good choices himself and is not in a good place mentally, but you can't do anything about it. I hope you can stand firm and continue to concentrate of your two girls, your husband, and yourself :) Give yourself a lot of deserved and needed love and let Romeo deal with this himself. He will continue to pick losers if he doesn't start feeling better about himself and he probably won't start feeling better about himself until he feels like an adult who is truly independent. You can not force your adult son into counseling even if he doesn't get to see this girl again and he may pine for her while she's gone. These two are beyond the ages where you can fix them or anyone can. The girl is not a "young" girl. She is a young woman who is making poor choices, whom her own parents know very well and can't fix. Her parents would have found out she's in jail without your stop at their house. Trust me, she will call them. You're lucky they were nice...lol. Some fed up parents may have said, "You woke me up for THAT? Let her stay in jail for now. I'm sleeping in." Yes, I'm serious. Hugs and take care and I'm sorry for all the trouble you went through. Although I wouldn't have done it, it sounds exhausting. [/QUOTE]
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