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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 609077"><p>"...And be careful with arguing with your girlfriend, because if you get arrested for domestic disturbance, or abuse, I am not going to bail you out. So be careful..."</p><p></p><p>Please know that no one is being judgmental - especially me. We are all just piping in with our own life experiences... because these darn kids did not come with instruction manuals or troubleshooting faqs (lol) </p><p></p><p>Degrees of detachment &/or the choice not to detach are entirely yours. No one but you walks in your shoes & that's your call. That said, whatever you choose- you need to be consistent AND you need to disengage from being an active participant in the drama. Decide what you are willing to do and not do and stick with it. You've provided a pretty decent option of a warm & loving home to him and he has chosen a different direction. You need to honor his choice AND you should honor your own words. Consistency is key - don't become a part of the craziness. Say what you mean and mean what you say. </p><p></p><p>That said, I think being open to bailing out your son's assailant is going a bit too far. Your concern for her parents & to assuage your son is touching & well meant but you could have accomplished such with a few phone calls on the morning hours. I think you need to choose to not participate in the drama. Model the behavior you seek- even for just your own sanity's sake.</p><p></p><p>As far as the "just marijuana" use- my own difficult child can become agitated from marijuana. Yes, it's known for the opposite effect- but agitation is an increasing subset effect due to more potent and varied newer substance strains. Also- synthetic marijuana, k2, spice, salvia & similar street drugs favored by MJ users are known agitators and do not show up on drug tests. Yes, many recreational MJ users are aok just like many social drinkers never abuse alcohol. Your son is having difficulties - and I think the marijuana could be a part of his problems. It certainly isn't helping...</p><p></p><p>Just in my humble opinion- please keep posting and please know that no one is judging</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 609077"] "...And be careful with arguing with your girlfriend, because if you get arrested for domestic disturbance, or abuse, I am not going to bail you out. So be careful..." Please know that no one is being judgmental - especially me. We are all just piping in with our own life experiences... because these darn kids did not come with instruction manuals or troubleshooting faqs (lol) Degrees of detachment &/or the choice not to detach are entirely yours. No one but you walks in your shoes & that's your call. That said, whatever you choose- you need to be consistent AND you need to disengage from being an active participant in the drama. Decide what you are willing to do and not do and stick with it. You've provided a pretty decent option of a warm & loving home to him and he has chosen a different direction. You need to honor his choice AND you should honor your own words. Consistency is key - don't become a part of the craziness. Say what you mean and mean what you say. That said, I think being open to bailing out your son's assailant is going a bit too far. Your concern for her parents & to assuage your son is touching & well meant but you could have accomplished such with a few phone calls on the morning hours. I think you need to choose to not participate in the drama. Model the behavior you seek- even for just your own sanity's sake. As far as the "just marijuana" use- my own difficult child can become agitated from marijuana. Yes, it's known for the opposite effect- but agitation is an increasing subset effect due to more potent and varied newer substance strains. Also- synthetic marijuana, k2, spice, salvia & similar street drugs favored by MJ users are known agitators and do not show up on drug tests. Yes, many recreational MJ users are aok just like many social drinkers never abuse alcohol. Your son is having difficulties - and I think the marijuana could be a part of his problems. It certainly isn't helping... Just in my humble opinion- please keep posting and please know that no one is judging [/QUOTE]
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