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<blockquote data-quote="Dancerat" data-source="post: 609156" data-attributes="member: 14984"><p>Thank all of you again. Sig, that was a good post on detachment, and that's how I feel. I agree. I can only do so much. </p><p></p><p>I am sure my son will not be able to stop seeing this girl, and I am sure that he will get arrested. At that point, I told him I'd put money on his books so he could get stuff from the commissary, and I'd see him at his arraignment. That's the best I can do. He is so dumb, that he will make the choice to see her, she will somehow get him into trouble, and he will be arrested. The other night, I did get caught up in the drama, but I've always been there for my kids, and it was hard for me to see any other parents suffering. </p><p></p><p>But these parents were far into detachment. You are right, they probably would have been happy with a phone call and not be woken up. As bad as my difficult child is, the GFH is their difficult child, and is way worse than mine ever was. Well, at this point. I thought about it a lot. Mine is just plain dumb. I mean, he is a smart guy in some ways, but in other ways, especially when it comes to his heart (and places like that), or immediate gratification, for some reason he can't think or act or reason like an adult.</p><p></p><p>I think I was a little tired when I wrote that piece about defense, but I just wanted to say that I am definitely in the beginning of detachment, and it's an early state for me. MWM is right, if and when I ever go through a quarter of what she's been through, I can only imagine what it would be like to hear a knock on the door at 6:00 a.m. from some well meaning mom and her kid wanting me to know that difficult child has been arrested. I'd probably look at her, and say, thanks, well, that's not a surprise. She'd probably think I was heartless. No. Just finally entaching. I'd like to think of it as that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Dancerat, post: 609156, member: 14984"] Thank all of you again. Sig, that was a good post on detachment, and that's how I feel. I agree. I can only do so much. I am sure my son will not be able to stop seeing this girl, and I am sure that he will get arrested. At that point, I told him I'd put money on his books so he could get stuff from the commissary, and I'd see him at his arraignment. That's the best I can do. He is so dumb, that he will make the choice to see her, she will somehow get him into trouble, and he will be arrested. The other night, I did get caught up in the drama, but I've always been there for my kids, and it was hard for me to see any other parents suffering. But these parents were far into detachment. You are right, they probably would have been happy with a phone call and not be woken up. As bad as my difficult child is, the GFH is their difficult child, and is way worse than mine ever was. Well, at this point. I thought about it a lot. Mine is just plain dumb. I mean, he is a smart guy in some ways, but in other ways, especially when it comes to his heart (and places like that), or immediate gratification, for some reason he can't think or act or reason like an adult. I think I was a little tired when I wrote that piece about defense, but I just wanted to say that I am definitely in the beginning of detachment, and it's an early state for me. MWM is right, if and when I ever go through a quarter of what she's been through, I can only imagine what it would be like to hear a knock on the door at 6:00 a.m. from some well meaning mom and her kid wanting me to know that difficult child has been arrested. I'd probably look at her, and say, thanks, well, that's not a surprise. She'd probably think I was heartless. No. Just finally entaching. I'd like to think of it as that. [/QUOTE]
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