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Give difficult child grandpa's watch or not to? About trust and self-preservation
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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 562996" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Everything that people have said in regard to keeping the watch and giving it later at such time as difficult child can be "trusted" with it makes sense, is logical, is something that would appeal to most right-thinking people. i really mean that.</p><p>But... I guess I am a traditionalist, and also someone who believes that gifts that are given are no longer the responsibility of the giver. It is the gesture that counts - and, yes, in the eyes of the world that is a kind of madness. I think of Jesus's parable of the prodigal son who met with all the unconditional love and welcome of his father on his return, to the disgust of the other, "good" son. </p><p>I know I am alone in this. But I would make the leap of faith and give it to difficult child on his graduation. And I would do so as a gift not for difficult child, ultimately, or for myself but for the grandfather, whose wishes I would be honouring. It was his watch, this is what he wanted... without further analysis of whether it was "right" or not, "deserved" or not, I would give it to difficult child in trust and honour. And if my heart was subsequently broken because the watch had been sold to pay off a gambling debt or something similiarly horrible... well, I would just accept it as the price of honouring that fulfilment.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 562996, member: 11227"] Everything that people have said in regard to keeping the watch and giving it later at such time as difficult child can be "trusted" with it makes sense, is logical, is something that would appeal to most right-thinking people. i really mean that. But... I guess I am a traditionalist, and also someone who believes that gifts that are given are no longer the responsibility of the giver. It is the gesture that counts - and, yes, in the eyes of the world that is a kind of madness. I think of Jesus's parable of the prodigal son who met with all the unconditional love and welcome of his father on his return, to the disgust of the other, "good" son. I know I am alone in this. But I would make the leap of faith and give it to difficult child on his graduation. And I would do so as a gift not for difficult child, ultimately, or for myself but for the grandfather, whose wishes I would be honouring. It was his watch, this is what he wanted... without further analysis of whether it was "right" or not, "deserved" or not, I would give it to difficult child in trust and honour. And if my heart was subsequently broken because the watch had been sold to pay off a gambling debt or something similiarly horrible... well, I would just accept it as the price of honouring that fulfilment. [/QUOTE]
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