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<blockquote data-quote="carolanne" data-source="post: 141634" data-attributes="member: 1904"><p>I printed off chore charts today. One for each kid even my little guy. Put them on the fridge and said "in order for me to pay an allowance, you need to earn an allowance. for every time I have to tell you to do a chore, you will lose money. Allowances will be paid bi-weekly as in the real world....don't do the work, you don't get paid". Of course there was plenty of eye rolling but tough.</p><p></p><p>The worst thing? Becky has trashed her $300 cell phone. She destroyed the port that is required to recharge it...and it will cost quite a bit to fix. I told husband about it and her lack of respect regarding the cost to repair and he said fix it. Becky of course heard this and started laughing.</p><p></p><p>I took the phone and put it in my lockbox and told her she will not get it back, it will not be fixed and I do not have a problem paying the monthly fee(I am locked in) for the next three years. I took away computer privleges as well for the snottiness.</p><p></p><p>As for husband? I asked to speak to him away from the kids....and told him he needed to stop putting his daughter ahead of his wife or I would walk out and file for divorce. I went on to tell him I am not a second class citizen and demand respect as his wife. I told him I have given you 20 years of my life to raise your children, clean your home and cook your meals...you have 30 days to figure out if you want it to be another 20 years with someone willing to love and care for you....if things haven't changed, I will file for divorce and I walked away.</p><p></p><p>I spent some time talking with my friend and laid it all out....she said she wasn't surprised at how bad it really is and said she is here as MY friend to do what she can but that I need to do what I need to do to be the person I want. If that requires me to live in an apt with my two youngest while husband raises B better than me( he says it all the time) than that's what it takes...</p><p></p><p>Carolanne</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="carolanne, post: 141634, member: 1904"] I printed off chore charts today. One for each kid even my little guy. Put them on the fridge and said "in order for me to pay an allowance, you need to earn an allowance. for every time I have to tell you to do a chore, you will lose money. Allowances will be paid bi-weekly as in the real world....don't do the work, you don't get paid". Of course there was plenty of eye rolling but tough. The worst thing? Becky has trashed her $300 cell phone. She destroyed the port that is required to recharge it...and it will cost quite a bit to fix. I told husband about it and her lack of respect regarding the cost to repair and he said fix it. Becky of course heard this and started laughing. I took the phone and put it in my lockbox and told her she will not get it back, it will not be fixed and I do not have a problem paying the monthly fee(I am locked in) for the next three years. I took away computer privleges as well for the snottiness. As for husband? I asked to speak to him away from the kids....and told him he needed to stop putting his daughter ahead of his wife or I would walk out and file for divorce. I went on to tell him I am not a second class citizen and demand respect as his wife. I told him I have given you 20 years of my life to raise your children, clean your home and cook your meals...you have 30 days to figure out if you want it to be another 20 years with someone willing to love and care for you....if things haven't changed, I will file for divorce and I walked away. I spent some time talking with my friend and laid it all out....she said she wasn't surprised at how bad it really is and said she is here as MY friend to do what she can but that I need to do what I need to do to be the person I want. If that requires me to live in an apt with my two youngest while husband raises B better than me( he says it all the time) than that's what it takes... Carolanne [/QUOTE]
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