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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 212394" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Welcome aboard, Michelle.</p><p></p><p>Some suggestions:</p><p></p><p>1) Do a sig, like I have at the end of this post (and Kathie, above). It's a way to make it easier for you so you don't have to keep giving all the details every post (and get cramped hands!)</p><p></p><p>2) Avoid using your real names or anything that could identify you - not that WE'RE dangerous, but confidentiality allows you to really vent here when you need to, without worrying that your child's teacher/doctor/neighbour is lurking and likely to use your words against you or your child. I know I was very glad to be able to really sound off here about some of the idiocy we were being put trough, and to also know that any suggestions being made wouldn't automatically be pre-empted by the "nasty people" being forewarned about what I was going to do about them/to them.</p><p></p><p>3) Get a copy of "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. It's brilliant for helping us cope with the difficult, apparently oppositional behaviour even if we're still not sure on diagnosis. It gives us a sense of direction, something we CAN do while we wait for doctors/therapists/teachers to get it right.</p><p></p><p>Siblings will often fight, especially when close in age like your boys are. I went through purgatory with my girls, and they're almost 4 years apart.</p><p></p><p>Something else for you to consider in the diagnostic alphabet soup, is Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) in some form. It can often be mistaken for other things like BiPolar (BP) or Tourette's. Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) is a classic finding in Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) (not always; just a lot). Have a look at the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) questionnaire on <a href="http://www.childbrain.com" target="_blank">www.childbrain.com</a>. It's not officially diagnostic (you can't diagnose long-distance and not by yourself) but if you do the test on him and print out the result whatever the score then take it to the doctor, it can give them some idea of your areas of concern.</p><p></p><p>Your son's head injury could be a factor, or it could be coincidence. You would need tests to determine this more closely. There could also be multiple factors - the injury plus something he was going to develop anyway. </p><p></p><p>My difficult child 3 goes to a local drama class for kids with learning difficulties; a lot of his classmates have autism or Asperger's, some have no official diagnosis apart from unspecified learning disorder. A couple of kids have Downs, one has Prader-Willi.</p><p>And one boy definitely has Asperger's while his sister is functionally autistic after a really serious brain injury sustained in a car accident when she was a toddler; she was in a coma for weeks, not expected to survive. Then the parents were told she'd never walk or talk. She's amazing, for a girl with most of one side of her brain just gone. Walks with a slight limp, has a lot of social problems but is amazing with what she can do for herself.</p><p>But now her mother is wondering - what would she have been like without the brain injury? There seem to be signs that some of the girl's problems are independent of the brain injury, perhaps she was autistic before the accident. Maybe her recovery from the injury is more complete than doctors have realised, and what is seen now is significantly part of what she would have had anyway.</p><p></p><p>It can only be conjecture, but it shows we have to be careful to avoid seeing everything necessarily as connected.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, welcome. This is a soft place to land and a great place to vent.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 212394, member: 1991"] Welcome aboard, Michelle. Some suggestions: 1) Do a sig, like I have at the end of this post (and Kathie, above). It's a way to make it easier for you so you don't have to keep giving all the details every post (and get cramped hands!) 2) Avoid using your real names or anything that could identify you - not that WE'RE dangerous, but confidentiality allows you to really vent here when you need to, without worrying that your child's teacher/doctor/neighbour is lurking and likely to use your words against you or your child. I know I was very glad to be able to really sound off here about some of the idiocy we were being put trough, and to also know that any suggestions being made wouldn't automatically be pre-empted by the "nasty people" being forewarned about what I was going to do about them/to them. 3) Get a copy of "The Explosive Child" by Ross Greene. It's brilliant for helping us cope with the difficult, apparently oppositional behaviour even if we're still not sure on diagnosis. It gives us a sense of direction, something we CAN do while we wait for doctors/therapists/teachers to get it right. Siblings will often fight, especially when close in age like your boys are. I went through purgatory with my girls, and they're almost 4 years apart. Something else for you to consider in the diagnostic alphabet soup, is Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) in some form. It can often be mistaken for other things like BiPolar (BP) or Tourette's. Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) is a classic finding in Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) (not always; just a lot). Have a look at the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) questionnaire on [url]www.childbrain.com[/url]. It's not officially diagnostic (you can't diagnose long-distance and not by yourself) but if you do the test on him and print out the result whatever the score then take it to the doctor, it can give them some idea of your areas of concern. Your son's head injury could be a factor, or it could be coincidence. You would need tests to determine this more closely. There could also be multiple factors - the injury plus something he was going to develop anyway. My difficult child 3 goes to a local drama class for kids with learning difficulties; a lot of his classmates have autism or Asperger's, some have no official diagnosis apart from unspecified learning disorder. A couple of kids have Downs, one has Prader-Willi. And one boy definitely has Asperger's while his sister is functionally autistic after a really serious brain injury sustained in a car accident when she was a toddler; she was in a coma for weeks, not expected to survive. Then the parents were told she'd never walk or talk. She's amazing, for a girl with most of one side of her brain just gone. Walks with a slight limp, has a lot of social problems but is amazing with what she can do for herself. But now her mother is wondering - what would she have been like without the brain injury? There seem to be signs that some of the girl's problems are independent of the brain injury, perhaps she was autistic before the accident. Maybe her recovery from the injury is more complete than doctors have realised, and what is seen now is significantly part of what she would have had anyway. It can only be conjecture, but it shows we have to be careful to avoid seeing everything necessarily as connected. Anyway, welcome. This is a soft place to land and a great place to vent. Marg [/QUOTE]
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