Going North
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tiredmommy
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Is he the orderly from the hospital where you had your abdominal surgery?
GoingNorth
Crazy Cat Lady
Whoops. Nope...that was my soon to be husband...nearly 25 years ago, and my (to this day) ONLY husband.
He died of a rare blood disease what will be six years ago in July. Sorry for the confusion: I usually refer to him as L(late)husband, but didn't this time.
I'm 48 in July and now used to living on my own. husband's can be wonderful and certainly LDH and I had a very happy marriage that ended too soon, but husband's and marriages are also a LOT of work and I don't feel like I have the energy to start over at my age.
LOL about the orderly from the hospital. I keep running into him at WalMart and he refuses to meet my eyes. Can't blame him...what do you SAY to someone whose butt you wiped?
He died of a rare blood disease what will be six years ago in July. Sorry for the confusion: I usually refer to him as L(late)husband, but didn't this time.
I'm 48 in July and now used to living on my own. husband's can be wonderful and certainly LDH and I had a very happy marriage that ended too soon, but husband's and marriages are also a LOT of work and I don't feel like I have the energy to start over at my age.
LOL about the orderly from the hospital. I keep running into him at WalMart and he refuses to meet my eyes. Can't blame him...what do you SAY to someone whose butt you wiped?
Big Bad Kitty
lolcat
Going North said:
"Say there...uhhh, how's your Schnauzer?"
Yes, I know...joining Star and Abbey in the corner...
Enough already!
GoingNorth
Crazy Cat Lady
Busywend, yeah...keeping a good relationship going takes a huge amt of work. I'm not sure if it is because I'm both on the spectrum and bipolar, or what (and hence spend a lot of time in therapy), but I've always been aware of the work required.
I KNOW how lucky I was to hook up with husband though I do wish sometimes that I could've been a "better" wife to him. Living with and loving me could not have been easy.
Yeah...it'll be six years coming up. LDH died the day before my birthday and his memorial service was on what would've been our 20th wedding anniversary.
We had 25 good years together--the relationship no one thought would work. And, if I had it to do over again...well, there's some things knowing what I know now, that I would've changed, I would've still done it all again...right to the bitter end.
I promise that if I "hook up" again, you'll be the first to know...right after I figure it out.
I KNOW how lucky I was to hook up with husband though I do wish sometimes that I could've been a "better" wife to him. Living with and loving me could not have been easy.
Yeah...it'll be six years coming up. LDH died the day before my birthday and his memorial service was on what would've been our 20th wedding anniversary.
We had 25 good years together--the relationship no one thought would work. And, if I had it to do over again...well, there's some things knowing what I know now, that I would've changed, I would've still done it all again...right to the bitter end.
I promise that if I "hook up" again, you'll be the first to know...right after I figure it out.
Suz
(the future) MRS. GERE
Well I certainly hope so.
We grieved with you, we agonized over whether or not you should meet that guy in the UK with you, we worried about your move and we've hoped for the best for you all these years.
And I'm such a dang diehard romantic that I want a few of us to find true love again...and I hope you and I are two of them!
Suz
GoingNorth
Crazy Cat Lady
Well, the guy in the UK has remarried and is very happy. I still hear from him regularly (his wife is fine with it, especially as I helped out with some ideas for the wedding service and stuff).
He's an avid "twitcher" (birdwatcher) so has to tell me about his sightings and the like.
I take life as it comes. If a new relationship comes down the pike I wouldn't say I'd be necessarily adverse, but I surely would be careful.
It's a huge step, and at my age too many women are willing to "settle", which I won't do--it's not fair to anyone involved.
I don't "need" anyone to help out financially or anything like that.
He's an avid "twitcher" (birdwatcher) so has to tell me about his sightings and the like.
I take life as it comes. If a new relationship comes down the pike I wouldn't say I'd be necessarily adverse, but I surely would be careful.
It's a huge step, and at my age too many women are willing to "settle", which I won't do--it's not fair to anyone involved.
I don't "need" anyone to help out financially or anything like that.
