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<blockquote data-quote="tired Cheryl" data-source="post: 82436" data-attributes="member: 4109"><p>During the three weeks when difficult child was attending his last preschool I had almost forgotten how much fun being out in public with him can be!</p><p></p><p>Now that he is no longer attending school I must take him many more public places.</p><p>Went grocery shopping with him and easy child yesterday. What was I thinking? Oh yeah, we had no food and lots of extenuating circumstances.</p><p></p><p>As usual, tried to come up with a good game plan, this time:let them each pick out small pumpkin displayed on the outside of the store. This will serve as incentive to behave and give them something to hold. Sounded good to me. Not even five minutes into the shopping before difficult child pulls cart on top of himself and is lying on the floor screaming with half of the store helping him and looking at me with "that look." </p><p></p><p>Proceed to fish counter where within 30 seconds difficult child figures out how to lift the glass off the case from the outside (I didn't know it could do that) grabs at the shrimp, harasses the other customers by geting into their personal space and chokes his sister. The clerk and other customers look horrified. I dryly comment, "You should see him without his medication" and move on. </p><p></p><p>Repeat the same at the furniture store this morning except add hostility. difficult child was in prime form today. Got away from me, ran out then back into the store screaming and yelling how angry he was at me (for unknown reason.) Older woman that he ran right over gave me the "can't you control your kid look?" I gave her the line about the medication too.</p><p></p><p>Others may find fault with this technique but these were the first times that I have used it and I must say it does stop "the" looks. I don't think they are expecting me to say that. Instead they are expecting what I have done in the past which is crawl around with my tail between my legs looking and feeling humiliated-like it is ALL my fault.</p><p> </p><p>Of course I will continue to limit my trips out with difficult child but on occasions when I must must endure outings with difficult child I am going to employ this tactic. At least it made <u>me</u> feel better.</p><p> :wink:</p><p>Cheryl</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tired Cheryl, post: 82436, member: 4109"] During the three weeks when difficult child was attending his last preschool I had almost forgotten how much fun being out in public with him can be! Now that he is no longer attending school I must take him many more public places. Went grocery shopping with him and easy child yesterday. What was I thinking? Oh yeah, we had no food and lots of extenuating circumstances. As usual, tried to come up with a good game plan, this time:let them each pick out small pumpkin displayed on the outside of the store. This will serve as incentive to behave and give them something to hold. Sounded good to me. Not even five minutes into the shopping before difficult child pulls cart on top of himself and is lying on the floor screaming with half of the store helping him and looking at me with "that look." Proceed to fish counter where within 30 seconds difficult child figures out how to lift the glass off the case from the outside (I didn't know it could do that) grabs at the shrimp, harasses the other customers by geting into their personal space and chokes his sister. The clerk and other customers look horrified. I dryly comment, "You should see him without his medication" and move on. Repeat the same at the furniture store this morning except add hostility. difficult child was in prime form today. Got away from me, ran out then back into the store screaming and yelling how angry he was at me (for unknown reason.) Older woman that he ran right over gave me the "can't you control your kid look?" I gave her the line about the medication too. Others may find fault with this technique but these were the first times that I have used it and I must say it does stop "the" looks. I don't think they are expecting me to say that. Instead they are expecting what I have done in the past which is crawl around with my tail between my legs looking and feeling humiliated-like it is ALL my fault. Of course I will continue to limit my trips out with difficult child but on occasions when I must must endure outings with difficult child I am going to employ this tactic. At least it made <u>me</u> feel better. [img]:wink:[/img] Cheryl [/QUOTE]
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