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Going to file charges on 16 year old son
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 664095" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am glad you went through and filed charges and did not back down. Your son needs to see the real world is not mommy and daddy who back down. Trust me, I had a child who blamed me for everything that was wrong in his world when he knew I was the one who fought hardest for him. When I backed off and let him go, he saw real quick that no one not even the grandparents who gave in so often, was truly there for him. He has more than once actually THANKED me for all I did, INCLUDING going to court an telling the judge what all he did, and INCLUDING putting him in a mental hospital for an extended stay. </p><p></p><p>As for all the "I hate you" and "You are the cause of my every problem" garbage, it IS all garbage. He doesn't think you have the guts or ability to truly back off and let him try to find out how hard life is without you. Now he has the courts to look at his progress, and I think you need to be incredibly honest about what he is doing with the courts. Let them know when he mouths off, is abusive, and uses. Do NOT EVER hide his behavior again from anyone. Let HIM bear the shame of his actions, don't you EVER take that shame on your shoulders. Let him see what others think, how many times they will ever give him another chance after he acts the way he does, and how many times they give him $$ or what he wants given his actions.</p><p></p><p>HE is the one in the wrong, NOT YOU. PLEASE stop wasting $$ on therapy for him and get some for yourself. YOU need the support and you DESERVE it!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 664095, member: 1233"] I am glad you went through and filed charges and did not back down. Your son needs to see the real world is not mommy and daddy who back down. Trust me, I had a child who blamed me for everything that was wrong in his world when he knew I was the one who fought hardest for him. When I backed off and let him go, he saw real quick that no one not even the grandparents who gave in so often, was truly there for him. He has more than once actually THANKED me for all I did, INCLUDING going to court an telling the judge what all he did, and INCLUDING putting him in a mental hospital for an extended stay. As for all the "I hate you" and "You are the cause of my every problem" garbage, it IS all garbage. He doesn't think you have the guts or ability to truly back off and let him try to find out how hard life is without you. Now he has the courts to look at his progress, and I think you need to be incredibly honest about what he is doing with the courts. Let them know when he mouths off, is abusive, and uses. Do NOT EVER hide his behavior again from anyone. Let HIM bear the shame of his actions, don't you EVER take that shame on your shoulders. Let him see what others think, how many times they will ever give him another chance after he acts the way he does, and how many times they give him $$ or what he wants given his actions. HE is the one in the wrong, NOT YOU. PLEASE stop wasting $$ on therapy for him and get some for yourself. YOU need the support and you DESERVE it! [/QUOTE]
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