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<blockquote data-quote="ck1" data-source="post: 111262" data-attributes="member: 3767"><p>Your story is very close to mine. I was a single mother until my difficult child was 12 then I married a wonderful man and we have two little ones together (ages 3 and almost 2).</p><p></p><p>I agree with all of the advice you've gotten. You've certainly done so much for your son, unfortunately, teens don't appreciate anything (mine certainly doesn't). </p><p></p><p>We called the police and had difficult child arrested (for simple assault) the very first time he made it necessary. The consequences ended up being pretty severe, he was out of our house for about five months (detention center then Residential Treatment Facility (RTF)). He's been home for about two weeks and so far things are going well.</p><p></p><p>Since your difficult child is at his dad's, enjoy the peace and quiet! However, if and when he returns to your house, you and husband must present a united front and follow through with any consequences necessary. If he's on probation, work closely with his PO. difficult child must be held accountable, he needs to know that you will not tolerate ANY cr*p in your home. period. Let him know that you mean business and there is only a place for him in your home if he follows the rules and treats his family with respect at all times.</p><p></p><p>My difficult child has a consent decree (very much like probation) and I've told him that it doesn't matter if his PO calls to see if he's really home by his curfew, because I will call his PO and tell him if you're not. PO will know exactly how you're doing, because I will tell him!!! My son believes me and has not tested the limits because he's afraid, he doesn't want to get in trouble again.</p><p></p><p>I understand the fear of difficult child living with his father but it's probably best right now. If he wants a better life for himself, then he'll make the choices needed to get it and he's the only one who can.</p><p></p><p>You need to allow your difficult child to feel the consequences of his actions. That's really the best you can do right now. Hang in there, you've done a great thing for yourself and difficult child by finding this site!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ck1, post: 111262, member: 3767"] Your story is very close to mine. I was a single mother until my difficult child was 12 then I married a wonderful man and we have two little ones together (ages 3 and almost 2). I agree with all of the advice you've gotten. You've certainly done so much for your son, unfortunately, teens don't appreciate anything (mine certainly doesn't). We called the police and had difficult child arrested (for simple assault) the very first time he made it necessary. The consequences ended up being pretty severe, he was out of our house for about five months (detention center then Residential Treatment Facility (RTF)). He's been home for about two weeks and so far things are going well. Since your difficult child is at his dad's, enjoy the peace and quiet! However, if and when he returns to your house, you and husband must present a united front and follow through with any consequences necessary. If he's on probation, work closely with his PO. difficult child must be held accountable, he needs to know that you will not tolerate ANY cr*p in your home. period. Let him know that you mean business and there is only a place for him in your home if he follows the rules and treats his family with respect at all times. My difficult child has a consent decree (very much like probation) and I've told him that it doesn't matter if his PO calls to see if he's really home by his curfew, because I will call his PO and tell him if you're not. PO will know exactly how you're doing, because I will tell him!!! My son believes me and has not tested the limits because he's afraid, he doesn't want to get in trouble again. I understand the fear of difficult child living with his father but it's probably best right now. If he wants a better life for himself, then he'll make the choices needed to get it and he's the only one who can. You need to allow your difficult child to feel the consequences of his actions. That's really the best you can do right now. Hang in there, you've done a great thing for yourself and difficult child by finding this site!! [/QUOTE]
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