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<blockquote data-quote="Sheila" data-source="post: 71952" data-attributes="member: 23"><p>So much of what you write sounds familiar to me. Just when I think difficult child has finally gotten it all together, I get blind-sided.</p><p></p><p>Some of this sounds like puberty to me. We went through a period recently that included the irritability, the tears, the anger. The smart mouth was front and center. I also found where he had peeled wallpaper off the wall in his bedroom. This was atypical behavior difficult child is not usually intentionally destructive.</p><p></p><p>The downward spiral started right at the first of the year. I can almost pinpoint it to the day of the trigger (but I never found out with-100% certainty what triggered it).</p><p></p><p>difficult child hadnt had a severe anxiety episode in a good while, and I missed the cues early on. Not sure it would have made much of a difference if I had tuned in earlier. After its passed a certain point, it pretty much has to run its course. What that typically means is 3 4 weeks of recovery after school is out. This summer it took about 6 weeks for him to snap out of it.</p><p></p><p>What Ive found, though, is that difficult childs anxiety doesnt present the same way now as it did when he was younger. There are some of the same signs, but some symptoms are different.</p><p></p><p>I think difficult child has developed other skills when it comes to the anxiety, but Im not sure you could say they are better coping skills. Hes just better able to hide for a longer period of time and then he falls apart on us.</p><p></p><p>difficult child didnt respond well to punishment when he was younger either although he had made such progress that I had reverted to more traditional measures. Before I snapped to what was going on this time around, my reaction to his misbehavior just made things worse. I had to regroup. I even stooped to threatening bringing out The Voucher System. Lol</p><p></p><p>As you know, difficult child has Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). He has made huge strides, and I feel fairly certain that if he were to be reevaluated today, it wouldnt be picked up on without a lot of background being tendered.</p><p></p><p>We went through some medication changes also because it seemed the medication had stopped working. Im not so sure now that the changes didnt cause some extra problems. </p><p></p><p>Ive also learned that he was told at school that his medication had quit working. Im not sure that wasnt a green flag for him to more or less give up in some areas. </p><p></p><p>difficult child usually starts to show signs of anxiety a couple of weeks before school starts. This year, all I saw was his response to questions from relatives and friends when asked if he was ready to go back to school. There was no hesitation in his voice when he responded, No each time. </p><p></p><p>I dont know what to tell you except I know for a fact that puberty and anxiety are not pretty. Wish I could be more help. I know how frustrating it is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sheila, post: 71952, member: 23"] So much of what you write sounds familiar to me. Just when I think difficult child has finally gotten it all together, I get blind-sided. Some of this sounds like puberty to me. We went through a period recently that included the irritability, the tears, the anger. The smart mouth was front and center. I also found where he had peeled wallpaper off the wall in his bedroom. This was atypical behavior difficult child is not usually intentionally destructive. The downward spiral started right at the first of the year. I can almost pinpoint it to the day of the trigger (but I never found out with-100% certainty what triggered it). difficult child hadnt had a severe anxiety episode in a good while, and I missed the cues early on. Not sure it would have made much of a difference if I had tuned in earlier. After its passed a certain point, it pretty much has to run its course. What that typically means is 3 4 weeks of recovery after school is out. This summer it took about 6 weeks for him to snap out of it. What Ive found, though, is that difficult childs anxiety doesnt present the same way now as it did when he was younger. There are some of the same signs, but some symptoms are different. I think difficult child has developed other skills when it comes to the anxiety, but Im not sure you could say they are better coping skills. Hes just better able to hide for a longer period of time and then he falls apart on us. difficult child didnt respond well to punishment when he was younger either although he had made such progress that I had reverted to more traditional measures. Before I snapped to what was going on this time around, my reaction to his misbehavior just made things worse. I had to regroup. I even stooped to threatening bringing out The Voucher System. Lol As you know, difficult child has Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). He has made huge strides, and I feel fairly certain that if he were to be reevaluated today, it wouldnt be picked up on without a lot of background being tendered. We went through some medication changes also because it seemed the medication had stopped working. Im not so sure now that the changes didnt cause some extra problems. Ive also learned that he was told at school that his medication had quit working. Im not sure that wasnt a green flag for him to more or less give up in some areas. difficult child usually starts to show signs of anxiety a couple of weeks before school starts. This year, all I saw was his response to questions from relatives and friends when asked if he was ready to go back to school. There was no hesitation in his voice when he responded, No each time. I dont know what to tell you except I know for a fact that puberty and anxiety are not pretty. Wish I could be more help. I know how frustrating it is. [/QUOTE]
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